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CJ2008|1464891414|4039451 said:I can tell you one thing.
I wouldn't making any sort of jokes.
I've known a few people in my life who make jokes / use humor at the oddest moments (I had a coworker once make a joke when 9/11 was happening right in front of our eyes, we were watching it on TV) and I thought to myself that it kind of fell in line with who she was. I have to admit I didn't like her much and even less in that moment. Even though I know some people use humor when they feel uncomfortable it's hard for me to wrap my head around it.
Completely unrelated to this post, but your point here really struck a nerve with me and I had to respond. I am the person who makes horrible jokes about unfunny topics. It's a coping mechanism. I have offended people in the past and I am sure I will offend people in the future, but it's easier for me to make jokes about my parents being dead, for example, than tip toe around the elephant in the room when someone asks me if I'm going "home" for Christmas. Sometimes the emotions people feel are too deep to acknowledge in earnest and using off color humor is a way to get through a conversation intact.