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Ideal_Rock
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My SIL just had her baby #2, and it''s really got me thinking, and keeping me up at night since my brain won''t shut down.
Some history: baby #1, Kyle, is 16 months old now, and an easy kid. Sleeps 11 hours at night, entertains himself, etc. And I had the most uneventful pregnancy, although it did end in c-section. I was on the fence about kids in the first place, but DH finally wore me down and thus we have 1, but I just don''t know if I want to do it again. We both work FT and I don''t see that changing anytime in the future, so K is in daycare 5 days a week, 8-9 hours a day. We make enough, and have a bit left over, but if we had a second it would get tight and we''d probably not be able to add to our savings or have college funds. DH has said he''s OK with 1 child if that''s what I want, but I can tell he does want a second. The only reason he can give for wanting another is so that K has a sibling, and that just doesn''t seem like enough for me to justify bringing another person into the world. I thought I''d be interested in a #2 to have a girl, but SIL just did, and I''ve now realized that it doesn''t bother me at all to not have a girl of my own. I had a friend once say that I was more of a boy mom, and I''m begining to think she was right. We''re 30 and 31, so age isn''t too much of a factor, but we have agreed that we would not want more than 3 years age difference between the kids. That leaves about 7 months until our drop dead gotta start TTC date.
So the question is, if you were on the fence (or not even near it) about baby #2, what made you decide either way?
Some history: baby #1, Kyle, is 16 months old now, and an easy kid. Sleeps 11 hours at night, entertains himself, etc. And I had the most uneventful pregnancy, although it did end in c-section. I was on the fence about kids in the first place, but DH finally wore me down and thus we have 1, but I just don''t know if I want to do it again. We both work FT and I don''t see that changing anytime in the future, so K is in daycare 5 days a week, 8-9 hours a day. We make enough, and have a bit left over, but if we had a second it would get tight and we''d probably not be able to add to our savings or have college funds. DH has said he''s OK with 1 child if that''s what I want, but I can tell he does want a second. The only reason he can give for wanting another is so that K has a sibling, and that just doesn''t seem like enough for me to justify bringing another person into the world. I thought I''d be interested in a #2 to have a girl, but SIL just did, and I''ve now realized that it doesn''t bother me at all to not have a girl of my own. I had a friend once say that I was more of a boy mom, and I''m begining to think she was right. We''re 30 and 31, so age isn''t too much of a factor, but we have agreed that we would not want more than 3 years age difference between the kids. That leaves about 7 months until our drop dead gotta start TTC date.
So the question is, if you were on the fence (or not even near it) about baby #2, what made you decide either way?