Hello! I''ve been reluctant to post in the LIW forum, because I don''t like feeling desperate to be engaged, I feel like I should be happy enough in my relationship as is. But alas, here I am.
My personal situation is this: I met my SO about 6 years ago. Maybe a year later, I decided he had to be mine. I basically forced him into dating me. I was a crazy teenager, and he was petrified of women, so that didn''t work out so well. Fast forward 4 years, after several sporadic lunch get-togethers to catch up, we met for drinks instead. And something just clicked for both of us. We''ve been together ever since. It''s been just over a year.
We started talking about a future together only a couple months into the relationship. I think we were both just mature enough to know what we wanted out of our lives..anyway, it comes up pretty regularly (his best friend is getting married, and we both chime in on what we''d want for our own wedding, etc), we don''t doubt that we will get married someday. I think the difference is, I''d actually prefer a long engagement, and I think he''d rather wait until we''ve moved away from our hometown and settled elsewhere before he even thinks of proposing.
It just makes so much more sense to do it here! It gives us more time to plan (especially since we''d be planning a DIY, low-budge wedding), and plus what fun is getting a beautiful new ring that you can''t show off to your friends and family?! Plus then he wouldn''t have to worry about saving the money after the move. He already has the money for the ring, it''s locked up in a CD for now but not for long. I guess I''m just hoping that maybe once the money is freed up he is ready to make that commitment.
I''ve already got my ring picked out (ha!).. I''m such a micro-manager. I decided I''m such a control freak that I''d prefer just to tell him exactly what I wanted. He was disappointed, but once we realized anything he picked out would have been the complete opposite of my taste, he felt better. So now, of course, I can''t stop refreshing the photos of the ring and drooling and dreaming and wishing.
SUCH A LONG STORY, I know, I just figured I''d spill my guts all at once.
My personal situation is this: I met my SO about 6 years ago. Maybe a year later, I decided he had to be mine. I basically forced him into dating me. I was a crazy teenager, and he was petrified of women, so that didn''t work out so well. Fast forward 4 years, after several sporadic lunch get-togethers to catch up, we met for drinks instead. And something just clicked for both of us. We''ve been together ever since. It''s been just over a year.
We started talking about a future together only a couple months into the relationship. I think we were both just mature enough to know what we wanted out of our lives..anyway, it comes up pretty regularly (his best friend is getting married, and we both chime in on what we''d want for our own wedding, etc), we don''t doubt that we will get married someday. I think the difference is, I''d actually prefer a long engagement, and I think he''d rather wait until we''ve moved away from our hometown and settled elsewhere before he even thinks of proposing.
It just makes so much more sense to do it here! It gives us more time to plan (especially since we''d be planning a DIY, low-budge wedding), and plus what fun is getting a beautiful new ring that you can''t show off to your friends and family?! Plus then he wouldn''t have to worry about saving the money after the move. He already has the money for the ring, it''s locked up in a CD for now but not for long. I guess I''m just hoping that maybe once the money is freed up he is ready to make that commitment.
I''ve already got my ring picked out (ha!).. I''m such a micro-manager. I decided I''m such a control freak that I''d prefer just to tell him exactly what I wanted. He was disappointed, but once we realized anything he picked out would have been the complete opposite of my taste, he felt better. So now, of course, I can''t stop refreshing the photos of the ring and drooling and dreaming and wishing.
SUCH A LONG STORY, I know, I just figured I''d spill my guts all at once.
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