annadragon
Shiny_Rock
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- Nov 8, 2008
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I know, I know you''re all laughing. Heck, I''m laughing too cause my quest is futile.
Anyway, here''s the situation. About 15 years DH bought some property with 3 units on it. He moved into one unit and rented out the rest, he said at some point his intent was to tear them down and build something new on the property but has never gotten around to it. These 3 houses are old, between 70-100 years old so they show their age. It is not unusual in our city for houses and buildings to be this old, but I''m sure there is some silly code or regulation which governs "historic" property.
The issue is they are falling apart. We live in a Gulf Coast city that was affected by Katrina and these houses were no exception, they didn''t flood but the roof damage and wind damage significantly expedited their deterioration. Our house still has a hole, not in the roof, but the ceiling where the insulation hangs down. Its a loft-style home with a vaulted ceiling, which already makes heating and a/c bills monstrous but this gaping hole contributes to lots of temperature control loss. I''ve offered several times to help DH fix this (it is not a one person job I''m quite sure). I don''t know how but said "Let''s get the equipment and figure out how" and he''ll reply "Yea, we should" but nothing comes of it even if I poke at him.
I noticed on the other side of the house that we''ve got a mold issue and I think its pretty bad, the ceiling appears to have a sag and I''ve noticed some changes over time that seem to me, a complete ignoramus when it comes to housing structure, that these changes indicate bad, bad times for the ceiling and us.
I''ve pointed that out to him as well, never nagging just a "Hey, I think there is a problem with mold (point out the area where its obviously moldy) and maybe that''s affecting your allergies" and he''ll say "Yea, could be".
I''m confused. Is this a male thing?
When I broach the subject I offer something constructive such as figuring out how to fix it or pointing out how it may be affecting us adversely both physically such as allergies. Am I coming at this from the wrong angle?
I also question with the other problems with the house if its worth fixing and maybe he doesn''t want to invest the time and money, but he''s never expressed that.
Help me obi-PS-kenobi, you''re my only hope
Anyway, here''s the situation. About 15 years DH bought some property with 3 units on it. He moved into one unit and rented out the rest, he said at some point his intent was to tear them down and build something new on the property but has never gotten around to it. These 3 houses are old, between 70-100 years old so they show their age. It is not unusual in our city for houses and buildings to be this old, but I''m sure there is some silly code or regulation which governs "historic" property.
The issue is they are falling apart. We live in a Gulf Coast city that was affected by Katrina and these houses were no exception, they didn''t flood but the roof damage and wind damage significantly expedited their deterioration. Our house still has a hole, not in the roof, but the ceiling where the insulation hangs down. Its a loft-style home with a vaulted ceiling, which already makes heating and a/c bills monstrous but this gaping hole contributes to lots of temperature control loss. I''ve offered several times to help DH fix this (it is not a one person job I''m quite sure). I don''t know how but said "Let''s get the equipment and figure out how" and he''ll reply "Yea, we should" but nothing comes of it even if I poke at him.
I noticed on the other side of the house that we''ve got a mold issue and I think its pretty bad, the ceiling appears to have a sag and I''ve noticed some changes over time that seem to me, a complete ignoramus when it comes to housing structure, that these changes indicate bad, bad times for the ceiling and us.
I''m confused. Is this a male thing?
I also question with the other problems with the house if its worth fixing and maybe he doesn''t want to invest the time and money, but he''s never expressed that.
Help me obi-PS-kenobi, you''re my only hope