clammer
Shiny_Rock
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- Mar 3, 2005
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OK you all may be wondering why I am coming here with my life dilemma. The reason, I need people to tell me how it is (no sugar coating) and I know most of my friends will tell me what I want to hear. I will try to make this short.
I got married September 2004. We knew we were going to get married eventually, but it got rushed because he got transferred to China (he left in February). I am staying in Michigan to finish school until mid-December. OK this is where it gets tough. He places the up-most importance on finishing school, finding a job, working there until retirement, and probably someday having a house with a white picket fence, and me baking apple pies. My idea of working is finding something you love and the money will come. This is the problem; I am in school for engineering. I hate it. Basically, I would rather clean the toilet with my toothbrush every morning before I use it then be an engineer. He doesn''t understand this because he is also an engineer and loooves it. I still haven''t figured out what possesed me to go to school for it, and why I didn''t get out years ago.
What I have always wanted to do is buy houses, re-do them and sell them. I have a good friend who is willing to put the money down for the first house if we want to start this now. She lives in a different state (with an amazing real estate industry), so I would have to quit school to try this.
This is my thought; tell me if I''m crazy. Try the house thing for a few months, if it doesn''t work, move back to Michigan and finish school. End up moving to China one semester later then planned (beginning of April 2006) and feel as if I gave my dream a shot. If it does work, plan on living one month in the states, one month in China and go back to school online for financing which I am interested in.
You may be asking why not go to school for financing now. The government is going to stop giving me loans soon. This schooling for engineering has been going on for almost seven years. And I''m pretty sure that my husband has a big boner that we both could be "engineers". So I either need to finish engineering or find some other way to pay for school.
I know, I know, I need to talk to my husband, but I find that sometimes I go a little crazy with an idea and need to know if I''m nuts before I get him all worked up.
Sorry this is so long but I appreciate any comments.
clammer
I got married September 2004. We knew we were going to get married eventually, but it got rushed because he got transferred to China (he left in February). I am staying in Michigan to finish school until mid-December. OK this is where it gets tough. He places the up-most importance on finishing school, finding a job, working there until retirement, and probably someday having a house with a white picket fence, and me baking apple pies. My idea of working is finding something you love and the money will come. This is the problem; I am in school for engineering. I hate it. Basically, I would rather clean the toilet with my toothbrush every morning before I use it then be an engineer. He doesn''t understand this because he is also an engineer and loooves it. I still haven''t figured out what possesed me to go to school for it, and why I didn''t get out years ago.
What I have always wanted to do is buy houses, re-do them and sell them. I have a good friend who is willing to put the money down for the first house if we want to start this now. She lives in a different state (with an amazing real estate industry), so I would have to quit school to try this.
This is my thought; tell me if I''m crazy. Try the house thing for a few months, if it doesn''t work, move back to Michigan and finish school. End up moving to China one semester later then planned (beginning of April 2006) and feel as if I gave my dream a shot. If it does work, plan on living one month in the states, one month in China and go back to school online for financing which I am interested in.
You may be asking why not go to school for financing now. The government is going to stop giving me loans soon. This schooling for engineering has been going on for almost seven years. And I''m pretty sure that my husband has a big boner that we both could be "engineers". So I either need to finish engineering or find some other way to pay for school.
I know, I know, I need to talk to my husband, but I find that sometimes I go a little crazy with an idea and need to know if I''m nuts before I get him all worked up.
Sorry this is so long but I appreciate any comments.
clammer