Hera
Ideal_Rock
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He won''t give me a reason other than he won''t be there if she is. He says "she''s crazy". That''s what''s such a problem. If he would just tell me, I maybe could see more of his side. Maybe he''s afraid of what she would tell his new girlfriend, I dunno. My girlfriend has told me that she would never do that.
It''s certainly not an ideal situation. I don''t really care to see my ex either, but I can count that I will see him at my brother''s wedding (if he ever gets married. It doesn''t bother me enough to boycott one of his functions. My brother means more to me and being part of a milestone time in his life is more important than my discomfort.
It WOULD be different if my ex cheated on me or was abusive or something but it''s not the case between him and I. It''s true, my ex didn''t want to marry me, but he''s still has some redeeming qualities. In my eyes, my brother gave an obligatory few years for me to get over it and resumed a relationship with him. It''s not a betrayal from my perspective. I brought him into our lives and it''s not a mystery why my twin would enjoy some of the same qualities I saw in him. He has a great sense of humor, he''s friendly and generous in spirit. It''s just his negatives were deal breakers for me. All I''m asking for is the same consideration back. He wasn''t cheated on by his ex girlfriend(my best friend) and if anything, he pulled a few fast ones on her. She''s not an angel either but as far as cheating on him or abusing him, she did none of those.
I wouldn''t do this on every occasion. Some of them, I feel would be only immediate family. I would just love to have her on some of my important occasions.
It''s certainly not an ideal situation. I don''t really care to see my ex either, but I can count that I will see him at my brother''s wedding (if he ever gets married. It doesn''t bother me enough to boycott one of his functions. My brother means more to me and being part of a milestone time in his life is more important than my discomfort.
It WOULD be different if my ex cheated on me or was abusive or something but it''s not the case between him and I. It''s true, my ex didn''t want to marry me, but he''s still has some redeeming qualities. In my eyes, my brother gave an obligatory few years for me to get over it and resumed a relationship with him. It''s not a betrayal from my perspective. I brought him into our lives and it''s not a mystery why my twin would enjoy some of the same qualities I saw in him. He has a great sense of humor, he''s friendly and generous in spirit. It''s just his negatives were deal breakers for me. All I''m asking for is the same consideration back. He wasn''t cheated on by his ex girlfriend(my best friend) and if anything, he pulled a few fast ones on her. She''s not an angel either but as far as cheating on him or abusing him, she did none of those.
I wouldn''t do this on every occasion. Some of them, I feel would be only immediate family. I would just love to have her on some of my important occasions.