OUpearlgirl
Ideal_Rock
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Welp.. My oldest sister has cut off all ties with our family. She is my dad and his ex-wife's adopted daughter, yet we have always loved her as if she were related by blood. In fact, I used to idolize her. Since she met her husband our relationship with her has become more and more distant over the last 15 years. Her husband doesn't "do family," and it seems like she doesn't anymore either.
She sent us a nasty e-mail, unprompted, over the holidays. She blasted our religion, yet told us that we shouldn't judge her for her lack of one. For the record, we do not care or comment on her religious views. She trashed our lifestyle-- she essentially called us materialistic-- and went on and on about the environment and how we don't care about it. That was interesting for someone who doesn't see or talk to us to know anything about our recycling practices! She said some hurtful things, and also gave us rules for if we wanted to have any contact with her at all. After my dad's rational and kind response she said she thought it best that we all "go our separate ways."
I am trying really hard not to be heartbroken over this. We have barely talked in the last several years (her doing, not mine) so I don't really know how being cut off will be all that different than it was before.
How do you get over a sibling who decides that because you aren't the same, you can't have a relationship? Also, part of me wonders if he is abusive. She hasn't spoken to her mom in 4 years, and now she is no longer speaking to us. When she was in town (she lives in Seattle, we are in TX/OK) for my older sister's wedding, her husband was tracking her by her phone. I don't think that's normal. I'm at a loss for what to do.
She sent us a nasty e-mail, unprompted, over the holidays. She blasted our religion, yet told us that we shouldn't judge her for her lack of one. For the record, we do not care or comment on her religious views. She trashed our lifestyle-- she essentially called us materialistic-- and went on and on about the environment and how we don't care about it. That was interesting for someone who doesn't see or talk to us to know anything about our recycling practices! She said some hurtful things, and also gave us rules for if we wanted to have any contact with her at all. After my dad's rational and kind response she said she thought it best that we all "go our separate ways."
I am trying really hard not to be heartbroken over this. We have barely talked in the last several years (her doing, not mine) so I don't really know how being cut off will be all that different than it was before.
How do you get over a sibling who decides that because you aren't the same, you can't have a relationship? Also, part of me wonders if he is abusive. She hasn't spoken to her mom in 4 years, and now she is no longer speaking to us. When she was in town (she lives in Seattle, we are in TX/OK) for my older sister's wedding, her husband was tracking her by her phone. I don't think that's normal. I'm at a loss for what to do.