QueenB29
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It sounds like you won't be able to live with yourself if you don't find some way to tell her. I agree with everyone who said you should do nothing until you find a new job. Then, she'll probably ask you why you're quitting. I would take that opportunity to tell her.
You just have to be prepared for the fall out. 1) she may not want to believe you and accuse you of lying 2) she may blame you for ruining her "perfect" family life 3) she may know and hate you for embarrassing her 4) she may get angry at first and then when she calms down be grateful to you for telling her 5) she may just be glad you told her.
Personally, if my DH were having an affair (not a one time, one night thing, mind you, but an actual affair), I would want someone to tell me. If I found out a close friend knew and didn't tell me, I would probably never forgive her. Other than the lying and the betrayal, he's also putting his wife at risk for all kinds of STDs. Besides which, if your friend is part owner of this business, she has every right in the world to know how he's using the company money, especially if he's opening BOTH of them up for an audit. And if she decides to divorce him, her lawyer will definitely need/want that information.
You just have to be prepared for the fall out. 1) she may not want to believe you and accuse you of lying 2) she may blame you for ruining her "perfect" family life 3) she may know and hate you for embarrassing her 4) she may get angry at first and then when she calms down be grateful to you for telling her 5) she may just be glad you told her.
Personally, if my DH were having an affair (not a one time, one night thing, mind you, but an actual affair), I would want someone to tell me. If I found out a close friend knew and didn't tell me, I would probably never forgive her. Other than the lying and the betrayal, he's also putting his wife at risk for all kinds of STDs. Besides which, if your friend is part owner of this business, she has every right in the world to know how he's using the company money, especially if he's opening BOTH of them up for an audit. And if she decides to divorce him, her lawyer will definitely need/want that information.