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Sorry for the vent. Just got to get it out.
Men.
How can they say we are hard to understand? Have they ever tried to talk to a man?
I was mentioning to FF (future fiance?? -- there really should be a thread somewhere dedicated to the short hand used) yesterday evening that I found a diamond that looks promising. I''m trying to keep him involved. (he was the one who suggested that I pick out the stones & setting). He asked the price. I told him $1700. He said "yikes" and then got really quiet. After awhile I mentioned that if he was uncomfortable with this or wasn''t ready yet we could wait. Of course he said that isn''t the problem.
What is the problem? He feels inadequate. He doesn''t know about diamonds (and doesn''t have any interest in them -- after all, they are just another mineral) and doesn''t feel that he could pick a good one even if he learned about them.
I reassured him that if he wanted to pick one I am sure it would be beautiful and I would love it.
He doesn''t want to pick one.
He also feels like he doesn''t make enough money and can''t afford what I deserve.
Reassured him again. It isn''t the size or expense that matters. I just want to be with him. (and I mean it -- as proved when 6 months ago I showed him a clearance ring that I would have been happy with - $800)
He wants to buy a diamond. When there is money to spend. What does he mean money to spend? He just spent $2,000 on tools this weekend and more to come. Plus a washing machine, freezer, and a few new windows. I know that it is all stuff that we needed. But he''s got a bonus (maybe) coming soon. A check from the insurance company any time. And a tax refund (at least according to my best estimates before sending the info to our tax guy). Plus another (large) tax refund coming after filing this years taxes.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
He is too practical. I''m practical too but sometimes it is frustrating to see everything else move up the list of things to do and my ring (and proposal) keep getting put off.
Why do men think that all we want is something huge to show our friends? And even if we do want to show our friends, so what? Isn''t the big TV and surround sound and giant barbeque the first thing people are showed when they come over?
Ggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr again.
Men.
How can they say we are hard to understand? Have they ever tried to talk to a man?
I was mentioning to FF (future fiance?? -- there really should be a thread somewhere dedicated to the short hand used) yesterday evening that I found a diamond that looks promising. I''m trying to keep him involved. (he was the one who suggested that I pick out the stones & setting). He asked the price. I told him $1700. He said "yikes" and then got really quiet. After awhile I mentioned that if he was uncomfortable with this or wasn''t ready yet we could wait. Of course he said that isn''t the problem.
What is the problem? He feels inadequate. He doesn''t know about diamonds (and doesn''t have any interest in them -- after all, they are just another mineral) and doesn''t feel that he could pick a good one even if he learned about them.
I reassured him that if he wanted to pick one I am sure it would be beautiful and I would love it.
He doesn''t want to pick one.
He also feels like he doesn''t make enough money and can''t afford what I deserve.
Reassured him again. It isn''t the size or expense that matters. I just want to be with him. (and I mean it -- as proved when 6 months ago I showed him a clearance ring that I would have been happy with - $800)
He wants to buy a diamond. When there is money to spend. What does he mean money to spend? He just spent $2,000 on tools this weekend and more to come. Plus a washing machine, freezer, and a few new windows. I know that it is all stuff that we needed. But he''s got a bonus (maybe) coming soon. A check from the insurance company any time. And a tax refund (at least according to my best estimates before sending the info to our tax guy). Plus another (large) tax refund coming after filing this years taxes.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
He is too practical. I''m practical too but sometimes it is frustrating to see everything else move up the list of things to do and my ring (and proposal) keep getting put off.
Why do men think that all we want is something huge to show our friends? And even if we do want to show our friends, so what? Isn''t the big TV and surround sound and giant barbeque the first thing people are showed when they come over?
Ggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr again.