Hey all,
I had an argument with my boyfriend today, and would love to get your wise perspectives. Please, if I am being a brat, tell me.
I am moving to a new city in a few months (sans boyfriend) to complete a rotation in a hospital for a year. This city is much larger than I am used to, and I do not know a single person in the city, and have only been there 3 times in my life. My boyfriend however, has relatives in the city and is pretty familiar with it.
My rotation in the hospital will determine whether I fail/graduate, so I am nervous and want to be prepared.
The fight started when I asked him what day we would be leaving. He has offered to drive down with me so we can move all of my stuff at once. I told him that I wanted 6 days before the start date of my clinical to give me time to scout out grocery stores/banks/dry cleaners/etc in the area, buy groceries, unpack, figure out bus routes blah blah. He told me that he doesn''t want to leave until 3 days before my clinical start date...because he wants to be in town to have dinner with his sister for her birthday. I can''t leave any earlier due to work commitments.
I like his sister, and I want them to celebrate, but he refuses to budge on the day. He wants to have dinner ON her birthday, not slightly before or after because "that''s how our family celebrates birthdays". He says 3 days is plenty of time to unpack all my stuff. He says I''m putting him in a tough place because he shouldn''t have to choose between his sister and me. He says that he''s already doing a lot for me and I shouldn''t be expecting so much from him.
Me? Well, I''m pretty pissed. It''s not like he''s my casual boyfriend. We''ve been together for 5 years, and have talked about marriage plans. Hell, we have a diamond. I feel like this clinical should matter more to him. My success means a career and money for a down payment on a house. I need more than 3 days to adjust! And yes, I think I will head down to the city by myself first, but I am hurt he doesn''t think I''m important enough to move a birthday dinner for.
Should I google map grocery stores and bus routes alone while telling myself I''m lucky he''s helping me move, period?
I had an argument with my boyfriend today, and would love to get your wise perspectives. Please, if I am being a brat, tell me.
I am moving to a new city in a few months (sans boyfriend) to complete a rotation in a hospital for a year. This city is much larger than I am used to, and I do not know a single person in the city, and have only been there 3 times in my life. My boyfriend however, has relatives in the city and is pretty familiar with it.
My rotation in the hospital will determine whether I fail/graduate, so I am nervous and want to be prepared.
The fight started when I asked him what day we would be leaving. He has offered to drive down with me so we can move all of my stuff at once. I told him that I wanted 6 days before the start date of my clinical to give me time to scout out grocery stores/banks/dry cleaners/etc in the area, buy groceries, unpack, figure out bus routes blah blah. He told me that he doesn''t want to leave until 3 days before my clinical start date...because he wants to be in town to have dinner with his sister for her birthday. I can''t leave any earlier due to work commitments.
I like his sister, and I want them to celebrate, but he refuses to budge on the day. He wants to have dinner ON her birthday, not slightly before or after because "that''s how our family celebrates birthdays". He says 3 days is plenty of time to unpack all my stuff. He says I''m putting him in a tough place because he shouldn''t have to choose between his sister and me. He says that he''s already doing a lot for me and I shouldn''t be expecting so much from him.
Me? Well, I''m pretty pissed. It''s not like he''s my casual boyfriend. We''ve been together for 5 years, and have talked about marriage plans. Hell, we have a diamond. I feel like this clinical should matter more to him. My success means a career and money for a down payment on a house. I need more than 3 days to adjust! And yes, I think I will head down to the city by myself first, but I am hurt he doesn''t think I''m important enough to move a birthday dinner for.
Should I google map grocery stores and bus routes alone while telling myself I''m lucky he''s helping me move, period?