fieryred33143
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Any tips on how to manage the sets of grandparents fairly? Anything that you feel works/didn’t work? If you are a grandparent, what are your thoughts?
My mom lives 4 hours away and FI’s parents live 10 minutes away. I honestly didn’t think this would even be an issue.
Their relationship is great but I don’t know how to manage the grandparent relationship. My FMIL gets really jealous of my mom’s time with DD which is a) silly since she spends 10 hours a day all week with her and b) unfair since my mom doesn’t get to see DD but once every other month and only for a weekend. Usually when my mom visits, she comes on Friday night on the bus and gets here around 11pm. She then leaves on Sunday at 7am on the bus (their schedule). So she only has Saturday with her. When my mom is here, FMIL wants to come over and visit which wouldn’t be a big deal because as I mentioned, they get along really well. But when she comes over, she immediately takes DD away from my mom. She and FFIL will then spend the next 3 or 4 hours that they are there fighting (
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I really want to nip this in the bud especially with the holidays coming up. I don’t want there to be tension and while my mom doesn’t give the impression that she’s bothered by it, I know she feels badly that she doesn’t get to see DD too often and when she finally does she doesn’t get to spend any alone time with her. Plus MIL has done some really hurtful and childish things while my mom has visited that my mom is not really that much of a fan anymore and I really want them to continue to have a good relationship.
TIA
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