justageek
Shiny_Rock
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- Aug 2, 2007
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I thought I''d ask you ladies for some opinions. I think most people will fall in love a few times, but they should only marry someone they love and like and respect and with whom they share common interests and goals (they really don''t always go together). I think this is rare, but it''s not so rare that it''s a once-in-a-lifetime thing. I feel like a fraud on LIW, sometimes, because everyone seems so sure that their current bf/SO is the one and they''ll never get another chance at true love, and I don''t feel that''s the case for me at all.
I guess what I''m trying to ask is: "How/when did you know that this relationship was it?" Was it a thunderbolt of recognition of your soul''s counterpart in another (what movie did I hear this in... hm...), or was it a gradual realization that this person was someone who you could love and like and respect and share common interests and goals with you? There''s Pandora II, who fell crazy in love at first sight and will live happily ever after with her prince , and then there''s me who, honestly, drove my bf crazy by alternating between "Let''s jump into this relationship headfirst!" and "I''ve been burned before -- I would really like to take this slow and maybe never get married so I always have a way out". I know I could happily spend my life with my bf, but I also know that I''ll be ok without him. I don''t think there''s only one person for me, and I doubt I''ll never fall in love again if this relationship doesn''t work out. I know I''ll probably be sad for a while, but I''ll recover and live a happy life, maybe single and maybe with someone else. Anyway, I''d like to hear some of your happy stories and takes on when/how you knew -- Thanks for taking the time to answer!!!
How/when did you know that this relationship was it?
My answer: I don''t know, and it worries me sometimes. But I am incredibly happy when I''m with my bf, we enjoy each other''s company, we respect and adore each other, and I can imagine myself living happily with him for the rest of my life. As to how I found out -- when I first met him, I was adamantly opposed to having kids of my own -- I firmly thought adoption was the only option I''d take. Fast foward a few months later, we''re watching tv and a commercial with a baby on it comes out. He says, "I really want kids." I say, "Yea... I really don''t, but what do you think about adoption?" And at that moment, the realization hit me -- oh my goodness, I''d have kids with this man after we got married.
We had never even talked about marriage before!! We hadn''t even exchanged "I love you"''s! Oy.
I guess what I''m trying to ask is: "How/when did you know that this relationship was it?" Was it a thunderbolt of recognition of your soul''s counterpart in another (what movie did I hear this in... hm...), or was it a gradual realization that this person was someone who you could love and like and respect and share common interests and goals with you? There''s Pandora II, who fell crazy in love at first sight and will live happily ever after with her prince , and then there''s me who, honestly, drove my bf crazy by alternating between "Let''s jump into this relationship headfirst!" and "I''ve been burned before -- I would really like to take this slow and maybe never get married so I always have a way out". I know I could happily spend my life with my bf, but I also know that I''ll be ok without him. I don''t think there''s only one person for me, and I doubt I''ll never fall in love again if this relationship doesn''t work out. I know I''ll probably be sad for a while, but I''ll recover and live a happy life, maybe single and maybe with someone else. Anyway, I''d like to hear some of your happy stories and takes on when/how you knew -- Thanks for taking the time to answer!!!
How/when did you know that this relationship was it?
My answer: I don''t know, and it worries me sometimes. But I am incredibly happy when I''m with my bf, we enjoy each other''s company, we respect and adore each other, and I can imagine myself living happily with him for the rest of my life. As to how I found out -- when I first met him, I was adamantly opposed to having kids of my own -- I firmly thought adoption was the only option I''d take. Fast foward a few months later, we''re watching tv and a commercial with a baby on it comes out. He says, "I really want kids." I say, "Yea... I really don''t, but what do you think about adoption?" And at that moment, the realization hit me -- oh my goodness, I''d have kids with this man after we got married.
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