blackbetty
Shiny_Rock
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- Feb 8, 2009
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1.) Our printable invitations turned out terribly (choose non-textured paper if you''re going to do it). The print smeared & lifted when handled. It was too late to start over...we should have done them earlier to allow for disaster. You probably don''t think they were as bad as I say, but they were-- they were embarassing.
2.) I had to get 2 adjoining ballrooms to accomodate the large amount of people, which came (of course) with a huge minimum. Now 65 people invited from FI''s family, 50 aren''t coming (most are only about 5 hours away, but apparently we aren''t worth the drive), so in addition to the normal percentage of people who decline, we went from expecting roughly 240-260 to right around 200. This means it''s going to be tough to hit our food & drink minimum & we may end up giving them money for nothing. Also, in order to not EXCEED the minimum, I invited nearly no one I work with & my mom left out a group of her girlfriends she would have otherwise invited. Not once did my future MIL tell me these people wouldn''t come; in fact, she added 6-8 people shortly before the invites went out. She told me, when not ONE person besides her & my new FSIL, that her friends & family didn''t want to make the trip twice. That room is going to look EMPTY.
3.) My fiance''s brother married his girlfriend of a year & a half in June. They got engaged after 8 months, just 2 or 3 months after us. I found it very irritating that they planned their wedding just before ours. For one, what''s the rush? She''s 24 & they''ve dated like 5 minutes. I''m 32 and we will have been togetehr almost 4-1/2 years when we get married next week. Second, I think a lot of FI''s family thinks they did their duty by going to the one wedding. They have a few out of state relatives who made that trip once, and aren''t making it twice.
3.) My fiance''s best man got engaged last August, married September 5th and my friend got engagged about 3 weeks after me & got married 2 weeks ago. I am wedding-ed out. On consecutive weekends I had a bachelorette, a bachelorette & shower, my own shower, a wedding, my bachelorette, a wedding, my bridesmaids luncheon, & then this weekend "off" before my wedding.
4.) A member of my theater company made his wedding the same day. I had discussed my date a couple months before with his fiance (who is an awful person). He later told a mutual friend they were thinking about 10-10. She told him that was my date & emailed me. I emailed him to confirm it was my date, and tell him I''d hoped they''d be able to come. He said it was the ONLY DAY ALL YEAR they could do it. They already have a kid--what''s the rush? If it was important, they wouldn''t have waited till he was nearly 2. Now a couple of mutual friends that I really wanted to be part of my day committed to him first.
5.) 10 days ago I emailed my jeweler to see if our rings woukd be ready last weekend. I was told they would take no more than 4 weeks, & that Saturday would be 4 weeks. She emailed back that she was home sick but would check when back in the office and let me know. When a whole week elapsed, I emailed again asking if there was any word. She said she would check & let me know the next day. Next day I get an email saying it''s been shipped & will be there that day or the next. Within minutes I get another, saying it wasn''t in that shipment but should be here mid tpo late next week. My wedding is next Saturday.
6.) Minor, but I wanted pumpkin cake & the bakery''s version of pumkin cake looks and takedted like yellow cake with cinnamon. Blech.
7.) So many people are useless. They ask how they can help, but do nothing. I emailed my tux stuff, & my FMIL sent back the paperwork from her other son''s wedding (they are out of state, but even FI''s brother who lives here couldn''t bother to go get measured). I emailed the necessary info to put the measurements in online or call them in, but they ended up in FI''s hand when he came back from a visit home, and he promptly hands them to me. He, who always asks how he can help since I''ve done 90% of the planning single-handledly, doesn''t even think to field the tux issue for his own groomsmen. Thanks, everyone, for nothing.
8.) When a woman who works for my dad got her invitation, she brought it to show him how the print got all smeared (thanks, lady, you''re a jerk). When he saw that we had a chicken or veg meal, and had taken steak off the table (it was $15 more a head), he came home, threw the invite at my mom, and raged about how we are trying to embarass & shame him, how all his friends & family had steak at their weddings. He then sat at the tasting silently refusing to give an opinion on anything since we obviously cared nothing for his opinion. It should have been fun, but instead it was uncomfortable & unpleasant.
9.) Just read the 10-day forecat. Every wedding I can remember going to has had a perfect day. Mine is supposed to be rainy & 58. My ceremony & reception are at the same hotel. That should make for some really repetetive pictures.
I know a lot of this sounds petty, & I have some really good things happening, like my brother, who is doing our ceremony music, and our comic book program (which hopefully FI will get finished up when he returns from his business trip), but I have found the whole wedding planning experience to be a pain, over-priced, and wrought with inconsiderate people. If I could start over & change everything, I would. We''d get married in Europe or Mexico, invite like 50 people, & everyone else be damned!
2.) I had to get 2 adjoining ballrooms to accomodate the large amount of people, which came (of course) with a huge minimum. Now 65 people invited from FI''s family, 50 aren''t coming (most are only about 5 hours away, but apparently we aren''t worth the drive), so in addition to the normal percentage of people who decline, we went from expecting roughly 240-260 to right around 200. This means it''s going to be tough to hit our food & drink minimum & we may end up giving them money for nothing. Also, in order to not EXCEED the minimum, I invited nearly no one I work with & my mom left out a group of her girlfriends she would have otherwise invited. Not once did my future MIL tell me these people wouldn''t come; in fact, she added 6-8 people shortly before the invites went out. She told me, when not ONE person besides her & my new FSIL, that her friends & family didn''t want to make the trip twice. That room is going to look EMPTY.
3.) My fiance''s brother married his girlfriend of a year & a half in June. They got engaged after 8 months, just 2 or 3 months after us. I found it very irritating that they planned their wedding just before ours. For one, what''s the rush? She''s 24 & they''ve dated like 5 minutes. I''m 32 and we will have been togetehr almost 4-1/2 years when we get married next week. Second, I think a lot of FI''s family thinks they did their duty by going to the one wedding. They have a few out of state relatives who made that trip once, and aren''t making it twice.
3.) My fiance''s best man got engaged last August, married September 5th and my friend got engagged about 3 weeks after me & got married 2 weeks ago. I am wedding-ed out. On consecutive weekends I had a bachelorette, a bachelorette & shower, my own shower, a wedding, my bachelorette, a wedding, my bridesmaids luncheon, & then this weekend "off" before my wedding.
4.) A member of my theater company made his wedding the same day. I had discussed my date a couple months before with his fiance (who is an awful person). He later told a mutual friend they were thinking about 10-10. She told him that was my date & emailed me. I emailed him to confirm it was my date, and tell him I''d hoped they''d be able to come. He said it was the ONLY DAY ALL YEAR they could do it. They already have a kid--what''s the rush? If it was important, they wouldn''t have waited till he was nearly 2. Now a couple of mutual friends that I really wanted to be part of my day committed to him first.
5.) 10 days ago I emailed my jeweler to see if our rings woukd be ready last weekend. I was told they would take no more than 4 weeks, & that Saturday would be 4 weeks. She emailed back that she was home sick but would check when back in the office and let me know. When a whole week elapsed, I emailed again asking if there was any word. She said she would check & let me know the next day. Next day I get an email saying it''s been shipped & will be there that day or the next. Within minutes I get another, saying it wasn''t in that shipment but should be here mid tpo late next week. My wedding is next Saturday.
6.) Minor, but I wanted pumpkin cake & the bakery''s version of pumkin cake looks and takedted like yellow cake with cinnamon. Blech.
7.) So many people are useless. They ask how they can help, but do nothing. I emailed my tux stuff, & my FMIL sent back the paperwork from her other son''s wedding (they are out of state, but even FI''s brother who lives here couldn''t bother to go get measured). I emailed the necessary info to put the measurements in online or call them in, but they ended up in FI''s hand when he came back from a visit home, and he promptly hands them to me. He, who always asks how he can help since I''ve done 90% of the planning single-handledly, doesn''t even think to field the tux issue for his own groomsmen. Thanks, everyone, for nothing.
8.) When a woman who works for my dad got her invitation, she brought it to show him how the print got all smeared (thanks, lady, you''re a jerk). When he saw that we had a chicken or veg meal, and had taken steak off the table (it was $15 more a head), he came home, threw the invite at my mom, and raged about how we are trying to embarass & shame him, how all his friends & family had steak at their weddings. He then sat at the tasting silently refusing to give an opinion on anything since we obviously cared nothing for his opinion. It should have been fun, but instead it was uncomfortable & unpleasant.
9.) Just read the 10-day forecat. Every wedding I can remember going to has had a perfect day. Mine is supposed to be rainy & 58. My ceremony & reception are at the same hotel. That should make for some really repetetive pictures.
I know a lot of this sounds petty, & I have some really good things happening, like my brother, who is doing our ceremony music, and our comic book program (which hopefully FI will get finished up when he returns from his business trip), but I have found the whole wedding planning experience to be a pain, over-priced, and wrought with inconsiderate people. If I could start over & change everything, I would. We''d get married in Europe or Mexico, invite like 50 people, & everyone else be damned!
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