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Ideal_Rock
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I''m really happily married, it''s so fantastic. To be honest, even if it fell apart now, I think I would still not regret the experience of having been married. Being married has really added a deep sense of acceptance and stability to my romantic life.Date: 6/25/2008 5:47:39 PM
Author: Aloros
I get the feeling that it''s these debacle-marriages that garner the most attention, so we tend to focus on them the most.
Marriage can be life-affirming.
Now, I know you mentioned that your mum and dad had a strong marriage, but I do think that it can be helpful to hang around lots of people that treat each other well, and have happy marriages. I was very sadly cynical - kinda bitterly hopeful - before I got married...Now that I am (finally) happily married, it seems all / most of my friends are as well! When I was single, I hardly knew any married people...it was outside my reality.
Decodelighted has an interesting point when she says it''s kinda like asking ''Are careers rewarding?"
it''s different strokes for different folks...not quite ''you get what you deserve'', because we''re talking a double act here...but it''s partly up to your own efforts.
Also, Elmorton, :''The people I know who have happy marriages have have other solid relationships whether it''s with a parent, friendships, co-workers, etc. When DH and I first started dating, I couldn''t help but notice how much love and respect his friends and family had for him. That''s a good sign. ''
That rings so profoundly true for me!
Also, having children can really test people. Poor mums! (and poor Dads too) It''s hard to have a happy marriage if everyone''s complaining all the time!