JenStone
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I once read in an article that the majority of men do not believe in true love aka THE love of their lives. Thus, for them, it is not a matter of finding THE ONE and then proposing. It''s a matter of being with someone when they''re ready to commit and propose. To put it bluntly, the article basically said that when it comes to meeting your potential husband, it''s all about timing.
For example, a couple may start dating in college. They love each other and they enjoy each others'' company. They see each other as potential life partners. They have been dating for years but the guy has not proposed yet because they''re too young.
Take another couple who meet each other in their late thirties. They too, love each other and they enjoy each others'' company. Neither of them have been married before. The guy proposes after just 6 months because both of them are ready to settle down.
Shortly after reading this, I brought up the topic to my boyfriend. He admitted that if we were both just a few years older (I''m 26, he''s 2, he would definitely have proposed by now.
A friend of mine has recently proposed to his girlfriend but they will not be getting married for another 3 years. When I asked him, "Why such the long engagement?" he replied,
"I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I know we''re both not ready to get married now, but I hope that we will be in 3 years time. I just wanted to make certain that she and the rest of the world knew that I want to marry her. And I couldn''t wait to call her my fiance! Now I can, and now I can''t wait to call her my wife!"
Being a romantic at heart, I always believed that when you meet THE ONE, you would want to spend the rest of your life with him/her. You would want to shout it from rooftops. And this is what my friend had done.
So what do you think? Is it all about timing?
For example, a couple may start dating in college. They love each other and they enjoy each others'' company. They see each other as potential life partners. They have been dating for years but the guy has not proposed yet because they''re too young.
Take another couple who meet each other in their late thirties. They too, love each other and they enjoy each others'' company. Neither of them have been married before. The guy proposes after just 6 months because both of them are ready to settle down.
Shortly after reading this, I brought up the topic to my boyfriend. He admitted that if we were both just a few years older (I''m 26, he''s 2, he would definitely have proposed by now.
A friend of mine has recently proposed to his girlfriend but they will not be getting married for another 3 years. When I asked him, "Why such the long engagement?" he replied,
"I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I know we''re both not ready to get married now, but I hope that we will be in 3 years time. I just wanted to make certain that she and the rest of the world knew that I want to marry her. And I couldn''t wait to call her my fiance! Now I can, and now I can''t wait to call her my wife!"
Being a romantic at heart, I always believed that when you meet THE ONE, you would want to spend the rest of your life with him/her. You would want to shout it from rooftops. And this is what my friend had done.
So what do you think? Is it all about timing?