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Rough_Rock
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Making the wedding list of who to invite? (this may be long)
Although I am not engaged yet, this is my biggest fear and the thing that I dread the most about planning BF''s and my wedding...who to invite and who to cut.
I have a huge family...mom, dad, stepmom, stepdad. I have 4 sets of grandparents. My mom, dad, stepmom and stepdad all have brothers and sisters (16 siblings total plus their SOs). My BF and I want to have a small, intimate wedding...like 50-60 people MAX. And we can only afford a small wedding. My parents and my BF''s parents can''t help pay for anything, so we have to pay for all of the people. And I have no clue who to not invite. I want to invite my immediate family of course, but I know that if I invite my mom and dad''s siblings, but not my stepmom or stepdad''s siblings, they will be pissed off. Also, I have young siblings, my youngest brother is 20 years younger than me. I would love for him to be a part of the wedding, but he will only be like 6 or 7. My other brother will be 10 or 11 and my sister will be 15 or 16. Do I invite them? I really don''t want any kids at the reception and we want to do reception and ceremony in one place. And if I invite them, do I need to invite all my young cousins? I am the oldest grandchild out of my entire family, so all of the kids are under 15 at this point. My BF''s family is really small, so he''s more worried about who to invite, rather than who not to invite.a. does anyone else have a similar situation?
So my questions to all of you are:
a. does anyone have a similar situation?
b. how are you dealing with this stress?
b. how do I figure out who to invite versus who not to invite?
c. why am I stressing about this when I don''t even have a ring!!??!! lol
Thanks for your advice in advance!
Although I am not engaged yet, this is my biggest fear and the thing that I dread the most about planning BF''s and my wedding...who to invite and who to cut.
I have a huge family...mom, dad, stepmom, stepdad. I have 4 sets of grandparents. My mom, dad, stepmom and stepdad all have brothers and sisters (16 siblings total plus their SOs). My BF and I want to have a small, intimate wedding...like 50-60 people MAX. And we can only afford a small wedding. My parents and my BF''s parents can''t help pay for anything, so we have to pay for all of the people. And I have no clue who to not invite. I want to invite my immediate family of course, but I know that if I invite my mom and dad''s siblings, but not my stepmom or stepdad''s siblings, they will be pissed off. Also, I have young siblings, my youngest brother is 20 years younger than me. I would love for him to be a part of the wedding, but he will only be like 6 or 7. My other brother will be 10 or 11 and my sister will be 15 or 16. Do I invite them? I really don''t want any kids at the reception and we want to do reception and ceremony in one place. And if I invite them, do I need to invite all my young cousins? I am the oldest grandchild out of my entire family, so all of the kids are under 15 at this point. My BF''s family is really small, so he''s more worried about who to invite, rather than who not to invite.a. does anyone else have a similar situation?
So my questions to all of you are:
a. does anyone have a similar situation?
b. how are you dealing with this stress?
b. how do I figure out who to invite versus who not to invite?
c. why am I stressing about this when I don''t even have a ring!!??!! lol
Thanks for your advice in advance!