merbear1215
Rough_Rock
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- Apr 14, 2010
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Let me start by saying that I realize this is a bit irrational, but I can't help but being a little bummed.
About two years ago, I chose the style of ring I wanted, a princess cut halo, the halo being square with rounded edges and then diamonds going down the band. I saw a picture of one very much like what I would want, and had shown some people. One of those people was my best friend. It got her thinking about what she wanted, and she was thinking a ring (I think round stone) with diamonds down the band.
Fast forward two years: we are both with the guys that we were with two years ago and both getting fairly close to engagement. Recently, she started describing the ring she had basically drawn a picture of (for her bf to use when he saw fit). It is a halo ring (cushion cut, cushion halo) and diamonds down the band, etc. I said "hey, that sounds like my ring." and she started to explain how it wasn't. She said something like "yours will be more modern looking, right? mine will have milgrain and some design going down the side." There is some truth to that, but I did think "well, you haven't seen it in two years, so I am sure your memory of it wasn't THAT clear." So, it seems that we are going to have very similar rings and receive them very close together.
I know it is crazy. First, I did not invent the halo style, nor did I copyright it. But, I have even read people on here comment that in real life, they have only known a few people who had them. Second, I realize if I had chosen solitaire or another style, I am sure plenty of people would have very similar looking styles. Third, she is my best friend, I love her, and I would NEVER expect that she would get something different than what she truly wants just because I had decided on my style first. Nor do I think she would have NEVER decided on the halo style had I not exposed her to it (not like she is trying to steal my style). But despite all that, I feel a little bummed or annoyed......has anyone ever run into this before? I will be totally happy with my ring and happy for her, but....I also just keep feeling something else about it......thoughts?
About two years ago, I chose the style of ring I wanted, a princess cut halo, the halo being square with rounded edges and then diamonds going down the band. I saw a picture of one very much like what I would want, and had shown some people. One of those people was my best friend. It got her thinking about what she wanted, and she was thinking a ring (I think round stone) with diamonds down the band.
Fast forward two years: we are both with the guys that we were with two years ago and both getting fairly close to engagement. Recently, she started describing the ring she had basically drawn a picture of (for her bf to use when he saw fit). It is a halo ring (cushion cut, cushion halo) and diamonds down the band, etc. I said "hey, that sounds like my ring." and she started to explain how it wasn't. She said something like "yours will be more modern looking, right? mine will have milgrain and some design going down the side." There is some truth to that, but I did think "well, you haven't seen it in two years, so I am sure your memory of it wasn't THAT clear." So, it seems that we are going to have very similar rings and receive them very close together.
I know it is crazy. First, I did not invent the halo style, nor did I copyright it. But, I have even read people on here comment that in real life, they have only known a few people who had them. Second, I realize if I had chosen solitaire or another style, I am sure plenty of people would have very similar looking styles. Third, she is my best friend, I love her, and I would NEVER expect that she would get something different than what she truly wants just because I had decided on my style first. Nor do I think she would have NEVER decided on the halo style had I not exposed her to it (not like she is trying to steal my style). But despite all that, I feel a little bummed or annoyed......has anyone ever run into this before? I will be totally happy with my ring and happy for her, but....I also just keep feeling something else about it......thoughts?