This is my 3rd attempt to post this on the new system so I really hope this isn't being repeated and repeated!!
Anyway, here goes...
My husband and I are on a working holiday for 6 months and have 1 month to go. Before we left both sets of parents discussed coming out to visit but for various reasons both decided not to.
This morning we had an email from the in laws saying that their flight would be in on Sunday!!!!! We knew nothing at all about it - no idea whatsoever that they had been planning on coming out!!! They are staying for just over 2 weeks which will basically leave us about a week left after they have gone. We had planned lots of fun things to do to make the most of our last month here as a family (we have 2 little ones) but now they will have to be changed or at least adapted to fit the inlaws in.
I feel soooo cross because they didn't ask. If they had phoned, in all honesty we probably would have told them it was ok to come, it just seems wrong that they are just turning up and assuming it is ok. At least if they had called first we could have warned them that we had things to do and they will have to amuse themselves or even told them to come a different week - to me I guess its the principal of the matter. I would never dream of doing that to someone without checking first. It is as though they think they have an automatic right to just come and visit whenever they feel like it and tough if it isn't convenient for us - I mean we could have had someone else staying or been really busy with work etc. As it is we have had to cancel some work at a cost of about $1500 which is a lot of money to us.
Furthermore I have just found out I am pregnant (6 weeks) and don't quite feel ready to tell anyone yet. However it is inevitable that we will have to now as we normally have plenty of wine to drink when they are about (I need it to stay sane!!!) and obvioulsy I won't be drinking. It is also likely that the morning sickness will kick in during the next week or so. I feel as though we will have no choice but to tell them.....just as we have had no choice in them coming to visit!
Am a being miserable and unfair or do you think it is right to expect a call to check it is ok to visit first?
Anyway, here goes...
My husband and I are on a working holiday for 6 months and have 1 month to go. Before we left both sets of parents discussed coming out to visit but for various reasons both decided not to.
This morning we had an email from the in laws saying that their flight would be in on Sunday!!!!! We knew nothing at all about it - no idea whatsoever that they had been planning on coming out!!! They are staying for just over 2 weeks which will basically leave us about a week left after they have gone. We had planned lots of fun things to do to make the most of our last month here as a family (we have 2 little ones) but now they will have to be changed or at least adapted to fit the inlaws in.
I feel soooo cross because they didn't ask. If they had phoned, in all honesty we probably would have told them it was ok to come, it just seems wrong that they are just turning up and assuming it is ok. At least if they had called first we could have warned them that we had things to do and they will have to amuse themselves or even told them to come a different week - to me I guess its the principal of the matter. I would never dream of doing that to someone without checking first. It is as though they think they have an automatic right to just come and visit whenever they feel like it and tough if it isn't convenient for us - I mean we could have had someone else staying or been really busy with work etc. As it is we have had to cancel some work at a cost of about $1500 which is a lot of money to us.
Furthermore I have just found out I am pregnant (6 weeks) and don't quite feel ready to tell anyone yet. However it is inevitable that we will have to now as we normally have plenty of wine to drink when they are about (I need it to stay sane!!!) and obvioulsy I won't be drinking. It is also likely that the morning sickness will kick in during the next week or so. I feel as though we will have no choice but to tell them.....just as we have had no choice in them coming to visit!
Am a being miserable and unfair or do you think it is right to expect a call to check it is ok to visit first?