madelise|1374382288|3487067 said:I don't think anyone would ever divorce over this, right?
Zoe|1374360387|3486964 said:I'd voice my opinion if my husband wanted to get a tattoo. Neither one of us are into them so it wouldn't come up, but I don't see anything wrong with telling him how I feel. He feels the same way.
distracts|1374480130|3487573 said:... I might. I just do not at all find people with big tattoos to be sexually attractive. AT ALL. If it's small, sure, I can ignore it. If it's big, though, no way. My husband wants a really big tattoo that covers his entire calf and I just can't deal with it. Could he get it? Yes. Would I stop having sex with him? Quite likely. That would lead to me divorcing him.
Don't care about tattoos on people I'm not having sex with. But they're a lady-boner-killer to me so it just wouldn't work out with my spouse. Which he knows, because we had this talk about how we both dislike tattoos on our S/Os before we got engaged. But now he's found one he wants. Fortunately he seems to realize that would be a mistake.
I dunno. It's one of those things where I just don't know how it would end up.
jstarfireb|1374443690|3487385 said:I think one has the right to chime in, but then the other has the right to do whatever they want after taking these concerns into consideration. And I mean serious consideration...there needs to be an open line of communication when it comes to permanent physical alterations. For example, I'd like to get a boob job some day, but my husband is so against it that I've dropped the issue. In general he doesn't want me to alter my body through surgery, tattoos, additional piercings, cosmetic surgery, etc, although he doesn't seem to care that my ears are pierced. However, I have my heart set on getting some liposuction when I can afford it and can take time off of work for recovery, and nothing he says would ever stop me. He knows this and will be supportive when I eventually go down that road.
I do think there's a big difference between asking a partner NOT to alter their body (which is pretty kosher in my book) and asking one TO alter their body (which is not cool). Nobody should expect their partner to undergo a painful and potentially risky procedure (tattos, surgery, etc) just because they want their SO to look a certain way. That decision needs to come from the individual alone.
distracts|1374480130|3487573 said:madelise|1374382288|3487067 said:I don't think anyone would ever divorce over this, right?
... I might. I just do not at all find people with big tattoos to be sexually attractive. AT ALL. If it's small, sure, I can ignore it. If it's big, though, no way. My husband wants a really big tattoo that covers his entire calf and I just can't deal with it. Could he get it? Yes. Would I stop having sex with him? Quite likely. That would lead to me divorcing him.
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kenny|1374479316|3487570 said:I'm a passionate supporter of live and let live.
I find it fascinating that many of us who embrace that, embrace it a little less when it's our SO.
We think we have more 'say' when it's an SO vs. a random member of the public.
Interesting.