janinegirly
Ideal_Rock
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dixie,
you gave it all you had these past few months, now it's time to accept the situation and move on so that you can retain some dignity. The only thing i can suggest for to you use as motivation to move forward is your own personal pride . Each time you ask him if anything's changed, it's a blow to your pride because he will only say no, so protect your pride and move away from the person who is causing the mental anguish. The reason it is so hard for you to understand is because you are not accepting the facts. And if i read what you wrote correctly, he also opened up to someone (a female friend?) while you were reeling from the news. You need to put an end to this tortue--you don't have to leave the area, you can move somewhere temporarily until your son finishes the school year. Or move back to wherever it was you lived before. This is in a downward spiral and you don't want to be the one left behind as he prepares for his move.
Take a look at Craigslist (if you're in or near a metropolitan area), there are tons of short term leases, opportunities to take over someone else's lease, roomates, every and any kind of situation. Don't just wait for your ex to make all the calls, he'll do it on his own timetable to coincide with his job. This is about YOU and it no longer involves HIM.
you gave it all you had these past few months, now it's time to accept the situation and move on so that you can retain some dignity. The only thing i can suggest for to you use as motivation to move forward is your own personal pride . Each time you ask him if anything's changed, it's a blow to your pride because he will only say no, so protect your pride and move away from the person who is causing the mental anguish. The reason it is so hard for you to understand is because you are not accepting the facts. And if i read what you wrote correctly, he also opened up to someone (a female friend?) while you were reeling from the news. You need to put an end to this tortue--you don't have to leave the area, you can move somewhere temporarily until your son finishes the school year. Or move back to wherever it was you lived before. This is in a downward spiral and you don't want to be the one left behind as he prepares for his move.
Take a look at Craigslist (if you're in or near a metropolitan area), there are tons of short term leases, opportunities to take over someone else's lease, roomates, every and any kind of situation. Don't just wait for your ex to make all the calls, he'll do it on his own timetable to coincide with his job. This is about YOU and it no longer involves HIM.