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I just wanted to add here that I had an epiphany of sorts this summer. Forgiveness. It's not something I ever thought I'd do with a certain situation in my life, and I didn't even know I really could without the person acknowledging their fault and asking for my forgiveness. But I did it anyway. And I have to keep doing it. I keep trying. I envisioned me on a ship, tugging along a boat that was tied to the ship. I visualized me swiping at the rope with a giant sword and with a satisfying "zing" sound, the boat floated away, along with my anger and resentment. It does come clanging back up against my ship when storms arise, but I resolutely look forward and get out my oar and row away from it. I am still learning, but it was so FREEING to realize I could leave it behind me. I also like the quote "Look at the past, but don't stare at it" from earlier in the thread. I read the book Boundaries by Townsend and Cloud. I had originally read it to help my dh with an issue, but there was this whole chapter on Forgiveness, and I ended up getting so much more out of it than I had thought!