huh?Date: 7/17/2009 2:31:24 PM
Author: Patchee
Lucy&roger wrote:
Just because a couple is not 'officially engaged' does not mean they are not committed. Every couple is different and should do what works for them.
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I never thought sharing $$ meant committment. Committment and Money are two totally different things IMHO
I've been committed to my newly DH from the minute we hooked up (5.5 ago). But that did not mean I was going to go out and co-sign for a Lexus SUV or anything.
I think for a lot of couples, combining finances (or the decision not to) is a big part of committment. Money is always a huge issue in relationships. But, just because a couple hasn''t combined finances doesn''t mean they aren''t committed, and vice versa!! There can be so many reasons to combine or not to combine finances...necessity, culture, ease of use, a form of committment, hiding assets, sharing assets, big purchases (a house), and on and on.Date: 7/17/2009 2:31:24 PM
Author: Patchee
Lucy&roger wrote:
Just because a couple is not ''officially engaged'' does not mean they are not committed. Every couple is different and should do what works for them.
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I never thought sharing $$ meant committment. Committment and Money are two totally different things IMHO
I''ve been committed to my newly DH from the minute we hooked up (5.5 ago). But that did not mean I was going to go out and co-sign for a Lexus SUV or anything.
i agree! we talked about moving into a 2 bedroom, and E would have a game room. he then told me that the big TV would move into that room too. OH HELL NO was my response, since i didnt drop 500 on a tv-size/type(we split the cost of it) i didnt really want, to be a tv i never used. he called be back the next day and thought it over, saying he would either buy a new tv for the front or back room.Date: 7/17/2009 3:07:49 PM
Author: Rock_of_Love
Money is such a funny thing, and believe me, we have had our issues about it along the way, but it is so personal and so different for every person and every couple. Our attitudes about money are shaped by so many different aspects of life that I think it shapes how/when/why we choose to combine, not to combine, or something in between!!
Ditto - as my dear mother always says "never put all your eggs in one basket". I do believe that finances within a couple are very important and I''d be uncomfortable if I knew my SO was bad with money and we only had a joint account. Thankfully he''s great with $$ so I don''t have to worry about coming home one night to find that all of our money has been spent on an expensive sports carDate: 7/18/2009 3:41:51 AM
Author: gwendolyn
Engaged and no finances are together. Even when we''re married, we''ll probably (at most) only have one joint account where we put money for bills...but even the thought of that makes me feel a little uncomfortable.