galeteia
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I''m hoping ladykemma can weigh in on this, but I''d appreciate hearing the experiences/thoughts of anyone who has experience with loved ones who are addicts, or in danger of becoming one.
My father was an alocholic, but as my parents were divorced and he never bothered to see me much, I was oblivious until I was 13. Then when things fell into place, and I haven''t spoken to him since in 13 years.
So I''m pretty jumpy about alcoholism in general. I have a friend (early 30''s) who drinks like a fish because she just loves the taste of alcohol, but I never worry about her. A good scotch is pure bliss to her. She experiences no temperment change when she drinks, and prefers to be with company so it''s a social thing. And she rarely gets ''drunk''. So I''m quite comfortable around her and don''t feel she has a ''problem''.
But.
I am worried about someone else who, although they don''t drink anywhere near the volume that my friend does, seems to be doing it from a totally different place. They struggle with alarming dark moods on a daily basis, and drink to try to deal with it because the issue is long past and unchangeable. (I could write a page about how they are utterly deluded about their issue, but that''s aside from the point.) Predictably, the drinking does NOT help, and they end up turning into a complete jackass when they are drunk. It''s shades of my dad all over again, so I can''t tell if I am just overreacting based on my own past experiences.
The problem here is not the amount of alcohol consumed, it''s the reasons for why they drink and the change they undergo when they have been drinking. Doesn''t even have to be ''drunk''; a drink or two will bring Hyde out.
They don''t have the resources to see a therapist for the issue, and essentially they have only myself and another friend who are close enough to offer any help. I''ve talked at length with the other friend, and we agree that the situation is alarming. Leaning on the bottle does no good.
So my question is how can you spot when someone is taking the first steps towards alocholism? It''s hard to confront someone for having ''a drinking problem'' when they don''t really drink that much.
I would appreciate your thoughts.
My father was an alocholic, but as my parents were divorced and he never bothered to see me much, I was oblivious until I was 13. Then when things fell into place, and I haven''t spoken to him since in 13 years.
So I''m pretty jumpy about alcoholism in general. I have a friend (early 30''s) who drinks like a fish because she just loves the taste of alcohol, but I never worry about her. A good scotch is pure bliss to her. She experiences no temperment change when she drinks, and prefers to be with company so it''s a social thing. And she rarely gets ''drunk''. So I''m quite comfortable around her and don''t feel she has a ''problem''.
But.
I am worried about someone else who, although they don''t drink anywhere near the volume that my friend does, seems to be doing it from a totally different place. They struggle with alarming dark moods on a daily basis, and drink to try to deal with it because the issue is long past and unchangeable. (I could write a page about how they are utterly deluded about their issue, but that''s aside from the point.) Predictably, the drinking does NOT help, and they end up turning into a complete jackass when they are drunk. It''s shades of my dad all over again, so I can''t tell if I am just overreacting based on my own past experiences.
The problem here is not the amount of alcohol consumed, it''s the reasons for why they drink and the change they undergo when they have been drinking. Doesn''t even have to be ''drunk''; a drink or two will bring Hyde out.
They don''t have the resources to see a therapist for the issue, and essentially they have only myself and another friend who are close enough to offer any help. I''ve talked at length with the other friend, and we agree that the situation is alarming. Leaning on the bottle does no good.
So my question is how can you spot when someone is taking the first steps towards alocholism? It''s hard to confront someone for having ''a drinking problem'' when they don''t really drink that much.
I would appreciate your thoughts.