Little Monster
Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- May 15, 2009
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Hey everyone,
I haven''t posted much on here - when I do it''s typically in Diamond Hangout. But right now I''m a little frustrated & a little upset so I thought venting to other LIW might help!
Most of the time I try not to think about getting engaged or weddings that much, but focus on being happy with how things are. It works most of the time. I''ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, have been living together for 3 months now. But, we just got back from a vacation in Cozumel and it seems like everyone I see is asking "are you engaged now?" It''s driving me crazy. I knew he wasn''t going to propose during the trip (though some ridiculously optimistic part of me hoped he was hiding something nice & shiny for me in his carry-on bag). It''s not like this was some big disappointment or let-down. It''s just that it was an amazingly romantic & wonderful trip... too many people have seen it as the perfect opportunity to propose... and have the balls to ask about it!
A little more about us? I''m 26 & my BF is 33. Me moving into his house (now our house) was a huge step for both of us. I had lived with someone before, but this was the 1st time for him. He only had one other long-term girlfriend & that ended fairly amicably, so no awful history there.
My BF loves me. I know that. He''s not going anywhere; he''s sweet as can be, makes me feel like a princess sometimes, and makes me incredibly happy. Living together has been amazing... we''re getting along really well so most of the time I can just say to myself ''you''re happy... why mess with that?'' But part of me wants so badly for him to propose & for us to get married. A lot of our friends are at that point but he doesn''t like being pressured about it (even talking about a friend''s engagement seems to get him stressed a bit).
I don''t want to push & am not going anywhere either. It''s just that this is something that drifts to the front of my thoughts fairly often & I''m just not sure how to make it stop. I need to simply enjoy being with him & not worry about it so much. He takes a while to get used to anything new (serious creature of habit) & takes forever deciding anything (from what kind of yogurt to buy, the new color paint for the bathroom, to having me move in
)... so I shouldn''t be surprised!
So what do I do to make it feel any better? I''m guessing we won''t get engaged for another 6-12 months at least... though I really don''t know. It''s not like I''m setting a deadline in my mind, or am even really upset -- I''m just to the point where it would make me SO happy to marry him & I know it''s just not quite there. What have you guys done to cope? Any strategies you''d like to pass on? I don''t want to keep bringing it up because I don''t want to rush him & I feel like talking about it with any of my friends or family just gets them asking me if he proposed yet every time I talk to them, which certainly doesn''t help
Any advice would be appreciated... seems like the grass on the engaged side of the fence is greener... how do I remind myself that my side of the fence is still amazing as long as my BF is there loving me & I''m loving him back?
I haven''t posted much on here - when I do it''s typically in Diamond Hangout. But right now I''m a little frustrated & a little upset so I thought venting to other LIW might help!
Most of the time I try not to think about getting engaged or weddings that much, but focus on being happy with how things are. It works most of the time. I''ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, have been living together for 3 months now. But, we just got back from a vacation in Cozumel and it seems like everyone I see is asking "are you engaged now?" It''s driving me crazy. I knew he wasn''t going to propose during the trip (though some ridiculously optimistic part of me hoped he was hiding something nice & shiny for me in his carry-on bag). It''s not like this was some big disappointment or let-down. It''s just that it was an amazingly romantic & wonderful trip... too many people have seen it as the perfect opportunity to propose... and have the balls to ask about it!
A little more about us? I''m 26 & my BF is 33. Me moving into his house (now our house) was a huge step for both of us. I had lived with someone before, but this was the 1st time for him. He only had one other long-term girlfriend & that ended fairly amicably, so no awful history there.
My BF loves me. I know that. He''s not going anywhere; he''s sweet as can be, makes me feel like a princess sometimes, and makes me incredibly happy. Living together has been amazing... we''re getting along really well so most of the time I can just say to myself ''you''re happy... why mess with that?'' But part of me wants so badly for him to propose & for us to get married. A lot of our friends are at that point but he doesn''t like being pressured about it (even talking about a friend''s engagement seems to get him stressed a bit).
I don''t want to push & am not going anywhere either. It''s just that this is something that drifts to the front of my thoughts fairly often & I''m just not sure how to make it stop. I need to simply enjoy being with him & not worry about it so much. He takes a while to get used to anything new (serious creature of habit) & takes forever deciding anything (from what kind of yogurt to buy, the new color paint for the bathroom, to having me move in
So what do I do to make it feel any better? I''m guessing we won''t get engaged for another 6-12 months at least... though I really don''t know. It''s not like I''m setting a deadline in my mind, or am even really upset -- I''m just to the point where it would make me SO happy to marry him & I know it''s just not quite there. What have you guys done to cope? Any strategies you''d like to pass on? I don''t want to keep bringing it up because I don''t want to rush him & I feel like talking about it with any of my friends or family just gets them asking me if he proposed yet every time I talk to them, which certainly doesn''t help
Any advice would be appreciated... seems like the grass on the engaged side of the fence is greener... how do I remind myself that my side of the fence is still amazing as long as my BF is there loving me & I''m loving him back?