HI:Date: 6/12/2007 10:01:37 AM
Author: Dulcet
He doesn't want it back. It's costly to keep having to send it. Enough time has passed now...Feel I've gone over and beyond in trying to return it. Still try?
Date: 6/12/2007 10:58:55 AM
Author: Dulcet
Thanks to all. The problem is new guy doesn't want it to exist. Doesn't understand that there is no emotional component to it for me. So I'm wondering if it's me... I've been more than reasonable in trying to return it. Have tried many times. Ex says it was a gift. He doesn't want it. Don't understand why new guy wants it gone. Should I try one more time? At this point, it's ridiculous and I feel I should be able to keep it.
Exactly my thoughts, make it to your "new guy''s" favorite charity and be done with it.Date: 6/12/2007 11:09:31 AM
Author: neatfreak
2. You could donate it to a charity. Some charities take donations of jewelry etc., and then auction it off. You might get a write off too.Date: 6/12/2007 10:58:55 AM
Author: Dulcet
Thanks to all. The problem is new guy doesn''t want it to exist. Doesn''t understand that there is no emotional component to it for me. So I''m wondering if it''s me... I''ve been more than reasonable in trying to return it. Have tried many times. Ex says it was a gift. He doesn''t want it. Don''t understand why new guy wants it gone. Should I try one more time? At this point, it''s ridiculous and I feel I should be able to keep it.
Date: 6/12/2007 12:27:03 PM
Author: simplysplendid
Or perhaps you can stand your ground and tell the new guy that if he keeps insisting that the old ring does not exist, then he goes. Your new guy should respect your decision and feel comfortable and confident with himself, rather than insist that the ring be gone so that he feels good about it.. Maybe this approach will shut him up about the ring further?
Date: 6/12/2007 12:46:57 PM
Author: sumbride
Date: 6/12/2007 12:27:03 PM
Author: simplysplendid
Or perhaps you can stand your ground and tell the new guy that if he keeps insisting that the old ring does not exist, then he goes. Your new guy should respect your decision and feel comfortable and confident with himself, rather than insist that the ring be gone so that he feels good about it.. Maybe this approach will shut him up about the ring further?
I wholeheartedly agree. So you have a past. So your past came with a diamond. Whatever. He needs to get over it.
Date: 6/12/2007 2:17:35 PM
Author: Dulcet
Thank you... it's hard because at this point I do feel it's rightfully mine. Spent tens of thousands on wedding that never happened because he backed out. Returned it several times and it kept coming back. To send it back again is ridiculous. I would love to have it reset but the problem seems to be the new guy hates the idea that it exists in my life. To sell it would be a huge loss. And I did love that diamond. In all, I consider it mine after all I have been through especially after so many sincere and honest attempts to return it.