FarFarAway
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Nov 6, 2006
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- 27
So I was discussing my dilemma with a good guy friend of mine who is usually exceptionally good at listening to "girl" issues with men. I told him that I was thinking of sitting SO down (yet again) and telling him that I love him very much, and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. However, getting engaged soon and getting married in the future is important to me, especially with the way my schedule will be in the next few years, and I need to have a goal to work towards. That I really cannot stay around in a relationship that just "goes with the flow" and end up where and whenever.
Well. He kinda lost it. He apparently HATES that girls sent these timelines for guys. He raised a point that I think SO will also raise: If you love us so much and want so badly to spend the rest of your lives with us, why does the ring and the engagement matter? Why does the time matter? JUST SPEND IT WITH US. JUST SPEND THE TIME FOCUSING ON WHAT A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WE''VE GOT AND STOP STRESSING ABOUT WHEN AND WHERE MARRIAGE IS GONNA HAPPEN?? Why does the piece of paper matter? Why does it matter ENOUGH that if it doesn''t happen, you are willing to give up what you claim to be the most important and best thing in your life?
I was kinda shocked at his outburst so I told him I didn''t know and ran home. hehehe.
What do you ladies think? Why are we willing to give up the person we love for the ring?
Well. He kinda lost it. He apparently HATES that girls sent these timelines for guys. He raised a point that I think SO will also raise: If you love us so much and want so badly to spend the rest of your lives with us, why does the ring and the engagement matter? Why does the time matter? JUST SPEND IT WITH US. JUST SPEND THE TIME FOCUSING ON WHAT A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WE''VE GOT AND STOP STRESSING ABOUT WHEN AND WHERE MARRIAGE IS GONNA HAPPEN?? Why does the piece of paper matter? Why does it matter ENOUGH that if it doesn''t happen, you are willing to give up what you claim to be the most important and best thing in your life?
I was kinda shocked at his outburst so I told him I didn''t know and ran home. hehehe.
What do you ladies think? Why are we willing to give up the person we love for the ring?