Elmorton
Ideal_Rock
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So, DH and I always read before bed. Last night I decided to read one of my travel journals - this one was from our honeymoon. I started laughing when I saw the page where we''d written down the funny things we heard or said and then I stopped laughing when there was one that I didn''t remember. I read it to DH, and he said "I don''t remember writing that, either." And then I realized...it wasn''t in my handwriting, it wasn''t his, and I recognized the handwriting without a shadow of a doubt.
One of my girlfriends wrote a somewhat lewd "quote" in my travel journal! At first, I didn''t know how to react...DH said that he was angry about it and thought that I should confront her when I see her this weekend. At first, I said that I thought it was something stupid and that I should probably just let it go, what''s the point in making waves? But...I don''t know, it''s still irking me this morning. I don''t know when she did it - I think I MAY have showed the journal to her after our honeymoon (it has all sorts of scraps and stuff in it, too), but otherwise, it has always been on a shelf in our bedroom.
It''s not like the journal has anything personal in it - honestly, it''s more of a record of what we did, what we ate, what we saw, what people''s names were that we met, because I always forget this kind of thing. But still...a journal is a journal and writing in someone else''s is weird.
So...do I bring it up? Do I not? Is this something that I should address before it turns into a larger issue? This friend wrote us the sweetest card as a wedding gift, saying basically that she had always felt that no one could know me as well as she did until she heard DH''s vows and realized that he loved me more, and that''s the best thing a friend can feel for another friend. But, during our last visit, she made a few references that made me uncomfortable, as if she didn''t understand that DH is my husband and not some random "boy" that I''m casually dating. I sortof wonder if the journal writing is indicative of not understanding this boundary, that some things are private, and that my marriage is one of those things. ...Or, is psych 101 rearing its ugly head and I''m reading waaay too much into this?
One of my girlfriends wrote a somewhat lewd "quote" in my travel journal! At first, I didn''t know how to react...DH said that he was angry about it and thought that I should confront her when I see her this weekend. At first, I said that I thought it was something stupid and that I should probably just let it go, what''s the point in making waves? But...I don''t know, it''s still irking me this morning. I don''t know when she did it - I think I MAY have showed the journal to her after our honeymoon (it has all sorts of scraps and stuff in it, too), but otherwise, it has always been on a shelf in our bedroom.
It''s not like the journal has anything personal in it - honestly, it''s more of a record of what we did, what we ate, what we saw, what people''s names were that we met, because I always forget this kind of thing. But still...a journal is a journal and writing in someone else''s is weird.
So...do I bring it up? Do I not? Is this something that I should address before it turns into a larger issue? This friend wrote us the sweetest card as a wedding gift, saying basically that she had always felt that no one could know me as well as she did until she heard DH''s vows and realized that he loved me more, and that''s the best thing a friend can feel for another friend. But, during our last visit, she made a few references that made me uncomfortable, as if she didn''t understand that DH is my husband and not some random "boy" that I''m casually dating. I sortof wonder if the journal writing is indicative of not understanding this boundary, that some things are private, and that my marriage is one of those things. ...Or, is psych 101 rearing its ugly head and I''m reading waaay too much into this?