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Ideal_Rock
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Hi everyone, I have a friend who lives out of state, but we keep in touch occassionally on Facebook. She let me know that she was pregnant a few months ago, and that we had gotten pregnant around the same time.
I''m 20 weeks now & found out that we''re having a boy, so I sent her an email to find out how she was doing, how far along she was, etc.
She replied that she had a miscarriage, but that they were planning to try again. She also said that she''s happy for me, and is going to be up in my area for the holidays, and would like to get together.
I just feel awful for her - I sent her a condolence note, but I am wondering if I should see her now when she comes to town - will it be rubbing salt in the wound if I show up with my pregnant belly & 3 year old in tow? I feel especially bad for her, because she''s 41, and there''s no guarantee that she''ll be able to have a successful pregnancy following her miscarriage.
I guess I just don''t want to be insensitive, and I feel that maybe just my presence would be upsetting to her - then again, she''s the one who said that she wants to get together - what do you guys think I should do?
I''m 20 weeks now & found out that we''re having a boy, so I sent her an email to find out how she was doing, how far along she was, etc.
She replied that she had a miscarriage, but that they were planning to try again. She also said that she''s happy for me, and is going to be up in my area for the holidays, and would like to get together.
I just feel awful for her - I sent her a condolence note, but I am wondering if I should see her now when she comes to town - will it be rubbing salt in the wound if I show up with my pregnant belly & 3 year old in tow? I feel especially bad for her, because she''s 41, and there''s no guarantee that she''ll be able to have a successful pregnancy following her miscarriage.
I guess I just don''t want to be insensitive, and I feel that maybe just my presence would be upsetting to her - then again, she''s the one who said that she wants to get together - what do you guys think I should do?