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Brilliant_Rock
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Hello. I''ve had a few other posts before about my father''s condition. He was diagnosed with Glioblastoma Multiforme (brain cancer) in January 2008. Since then he''s been through 3 brian surgeries, radiation and several types of chemo. Currently, he''s on what the doctor''s say is the last type of medication they can try (he''s not eligible for any other clinical trials). So, he''s been through a lot, and it''s taken a lot out of him. Due to the disease he has lost much of his vision and his balance and coordination, and then there are the side effects of his medications. So he''s now bedridden and very dependent on my mother and family. He really hates it and is very depressed. His last MRI showed that the tumor is stable, which was good news. However, he has decided he does not want to continue chemo. His argument is that he''s prolonging the inevitable, and is not living much of a life.
So, my family is torn. We want to respect his wishes, and realize that this medication isn''t going to cure him. However, how can we just stop trying and then live with ourselves? We want him in our lives as long as we can possibly have him.
I guess I''m not really asking for advice here, in that I know I have to respect his wishes as he is the one sufferring. I needed to vent my frustrations. If anyone else has had to make a decision like this, how did you deal with it? Did you find that anything helped you come to peace with the situation?
So, my family is torn. We want to respect his wishes, and realize that this medication isn''t going to cure him. However, how can we just stop trying and then live with ourselves? We want him in our lives as long as we can possibly have him.
I guess I''m not really asking for advice here, in that I know I have to respect his wishes as he is the one sufferring. I needed to vent my frustrations. If anyone else has had to make a decision like this, how did you deal with it? Did you find that anything helped you come to peace with the situation?