Sky56
Brilliant_Rock
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- Feb 27, 2010
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There are a few difficult people in my family and I understand the challenges of being around people who can make rude remarks.
It used to get under my skin more in the past; what helped me was the realization that it's their problem, not mine, and finding out later that many other people have noticed those same deficiencies. Walking away, minimizing contact, or making a short firm comment to the person has helped. "I do not allow people to disrespect me," or, "It hurts me when you talk to me like that." The person always has gotten a shocked look on their face....shuts up, and doesn't say it ever again. Though I admit I am more often the silent one who walks away, deciding that the person will in the future be barely allowed the privilege of my presence. Good results have happened...with minimized contact and later unforseen family events, better relationships have occurred and some of the offenders actually matured and began behaving more respectfully.
It used to get under my skin more in the past; what helped me was the realization that it's their problem, not mine, and finding out later that many other people have noticed those same deficiencies. Walking away, minimizing contact, or making a short firm comment to the person has helped. "I do not allow people to disrespect me," or, "It hurts me when you talk to me like that." The person always has gotten a shocked look on their face....shuts up, and doesn't say it ever again. Though I admit I am more often the silent one who walks away, deciding that the person will in the future be barely allowed the privilege of my presence. Good results have happened...with minimized contact and later unforseen family events, better relationships have occurred and some of the offenders actually matured and began behaving more respectfully.