DMBFiredancer
Brilliant_Rock
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I''ve been pretty drama free during the whole planning process until now.
FI has a niece (5 years old) and 2 nephews (3 and 2 yrs.)
We have said from the beginning that we do not want kids at the reception. Many of our friends who have kids are getting a babysitter (one couple is even flying out a babysitter to stay with them so that can even come to the afterparty)
The 5 year old niece is the flowergirl and the 3 year old nephew is the ringbearer. I asked them long ago out of respect to his family to have them involved somehow. Well, my FI has been at it with his sister about him not wanting them at the reception, even though they are in the wedding. I tried to explain that its kind of rude to have them IN the wedding and then not the reception, but he is pretty firm on wanting NO kids there. (I think the main reason is that his mom watches those kids ALOT - she is basically like a nanny to them because the mom and dad work late hours. My FI said he wants his parents to enjoy his wedding and not have to worry about taking care of kids)
He folded a bit and suggested that maybe they find a babysitter for the 2 youngest ones and just let the 5 year old come but they have insisted on bringing all 3 to the reception.
Ok, so I can deal with that....it''s family...sure, the kids may be a pain to have there, but I dont like to mess with family. So, I am cool with whatever. I''m easy like Sunday morning...
But, my FI is livid. He is so mad that he has insisted that I seat his sister at the furthest table from us.
(its a small wedding - 70 people - so they are not THAT far away - but still...)
My issue is that I fear that his parents will think that it is ME who is causing this. I also fear that it is disrespectful to his sister to have her sit so far away from his mom and dad.
BUT...my FI did request no kids at the reception.
What''s your take?
Hell yeah its ok to seat her far away...?
or
No, you really should have her seated closer with the family
or
Dont get involved - its HIS family issue, not yours.
FI has a niece (5 years old) and 2 nephews (3 and 2 yrs.)
We have said from the beginning that we do not want kids at the reception. Many of our friends who have kids are getting a babysitter (one couple is even flying out a babysitter to stay with them so that can even come to the afterparty)
The 5 year old niece is the flowergirl and the 3 year old nephew is the ringbearer. I asked them long ago out of respect to his family to have them involved somehow. Well, my FI has been at it with his sister about him not wanting them at the reception, even though they are in the wedding. I tried to explain that its kind of rude to have them IN the wedding and then not the reception, but he is pretty firm on wanting NO kids there. (I think the main reason is that his mom watches those kids ALOT - she is basically like a nanny to them because the mom and dad work late hours. My FI said he wants his parents to enjoy his wedding and not have to worry about taking care of kids)
He folded a bit and suggested that maybe they find a babysitter for the 2 youngest ones and just let the 5 year old come but they have insisted on bringing all 3 to the reception.
Ok, so I can deal with that....it''s family...sure, the kids may be a pain to have there, but I dont like to mess with family. So, I am cool with whatever. I''m easy like Sunday morning...
But, my FI is livid. He is so mad that he has insisted that I seat his sister at the furthest table from us.
(its a small wedding - 70 people - so they are not THAT far away - but still...)
My issue is that I fear that his parents will think that it is ME who is causing this. I also fear that it is disrespectful to his sister to have her sit so far away from his mom and dad.
BUT...my FI did request no kids at the reception.
What''s your take?
Hell yeah its ok to seat her far away...?
or
No, you really should have her seated closer with the family
or
Dont get involved - its HIS family issue, not yours.