So as not to create too much fear or doubt on the just barely preggers thread, I thought it would be good to start a new thread for those who have suffered a loss. I know I have really appreciated the support from so many people on this site, whether or not they have suffered a loss. I hope others like Bliss, HOUmedgal, Noelwr and anyone else suffering a loss will feel free to share, although I understand that this is also a very personal and private time.
We got final confirmation today that our little bean didn''t make it, measuring only 6 weeks, when it should have been nearly 8 weeks, and no heartbeat.
I have started to bleed so we are going to see what happens naturally for the next 24-48 hours and then make a decision about whether to have a D&C. I''d really like to sort out the worst of it before I am due back at work on Monday. Just out of interest, did anyone else have any tenderness around their kidneys?
I think it has now started to sink in for SO. I think he was still holding out hope that it would be okay even though I''d told him I had started to bleed and that the U/s was a forgone conclusion. He was out this morning and called to see if he could bring me home a decaf coffee and I said No, bring the strongest double shot caffeinated coffee you can find! He gave me big hug when he came home and I think he finally realised I meant it when I said it was over. He has a science degree so was also very interested in the detail of the U/s this afternoon. I think it was really good for him to be involved in the detail and if we are lucky enough to be there again, he will feel more part of the process.
Now I am just planning what I am going to have for dinner tonight with no food restrictions! I had a smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel after the news this afternoon and it was so good.
We got final confirmation today that our little bean didn''t make it, measuring only 6 weeks, when it should have been nearly 8 weeks, and no heartbeat.
I have started to bleed so we are going to see what happens naturally for the next 24-48 hours and then make a decision about whether to have a D&C. I''d really like to sort out the worst of it before I am due back at work on Monday. Just out of interest, did anyone else have any tenderness around their kidneys?
I think it has now started to sink in for SO. I think he was still holding out hope that it would be okay even though I''d told him I had started to bleed and that the U/s was a forgone conclusion. He was out this morning and called to see if he could bring me home a decaf coffee and I said No, bring the strongest double shot caffeinated coffee you can find! He gave me big hug when he came home and I think he finally realised I meant it when I said it was over. He has a science degree so was also very interested in the detail of the U/s this afternoon. I think it was really good for him to be involved in the detail and if we are lucky enough to be there again, he will feel more part of the process.
Now I am just planning what I am going to have for dinner tonight with no food restrictions! I had a smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel after the news this afternoon and it was so good.