I don''t know if this is in the right place to post it, but i couldn''t fin anywhere else it would fit, so i posted here. Ok, my husband and i got married in ''04. He never officially proposed to me and we didn''t have much money to have an actual wedding so we just eloped and had dinner afterwards. We figured we can always have our wedding and things later on when we were financially more settled. But, the ring he gave me i didn''t like it at all. It was gold in a heart shape and you couldn''t really see the diamonds at all, it hardly had sparkle to it. Kinda reminded me of more like a promise ring than a wedding ring, and when my parents saw it themselves...lol i know what they were thinking, they didn''t say anything. So in a way i felt a bit embarrased. I''m not trying to come across as superficial, and i''m not that way at all, but i have pretty long hands bigger than most women do, and the ring was not very flattering to my hands at all. The ring pretty much disappered on my big hands! lol,,i''m laughing a bit because i think it''s kinda funny to me. But, also it was in gold, and i cannot stand gold jewelry, i don''t own any at all, and it made me feel like he had no clue about that. But i think he should''ve taken notice cuz, i do wear silver earrings, necklaces etc....but i don''t buy much jewelry for myself so there was no jewelry inventory for him to see my style of jewelry i like. So, i didn''t really say anything to him about it. Some months later i lost it in the house, i tore the house up trying to find it, even though i didn''t like it very much, i started to become attached to it.
So, now.... i thought the other one would have been replaced, but it hasn''t yet. I would really like another ring, for one to keep the single guys from hitting on me so much, lol, and also i''m very much a ring person and feel like naked without one. It dosen''t even have to be super expensive because i know he can''t afford it, and i''d rather for us to be able to travel and buy a home soon, but i''d just like something. He also bought me a bracelet for my birthday once and i don''t like that one either, it has some gold w/white gold/diamond and i don''t like mixed gold at all. So my question is, how do i show my husband my preferences in jewelry and for him to take notice, instead of him picking something that he "thinks" i like when it''s something i feel he likes, and how do i bring it up to him about a replacement ring where he dosen''t get defensive about it? And should i tell him about the bracelet i don''t like either? The funny things is, i just thought about it, is the bracelet he bought sorta resembled the wedding ring he bought when we got married. lmao!
So, now.... i thought the other one would have been replaced, but it hasn''t yet. I would really like another ring, for one to keep the single guys from hitting on me so much, lol, and also i''m very much a ring person and feel like naked without one. It dosen''t even have to be super expensive because i know he can''t afford it, and i''d rather for us to be able to travel and buy a home soon, but i''d just like something. He also bought me a bracelet for my birthday once and i don''t like that one either, it has some gold w/white gold/diamond and i don''t like mixed gold at all. So my question is, how do i show my husband my preferences in jewelry and for him to take notice, instead of him picking something that he "thinks" i like when it''s something i feel he likes, and how do i bring it up to him about a replacement ring where he dosen''t get defensive about it? And should i tell him about the bracelet i don''t like either? The funny things is, i just thought about it, is the bracelet he bought sorta resembled the wedding ring he bought when we got married. lmao!