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Re: Does this neighbor situation sound like boundry crossing
I think you're right to feel creeped out by him. Obviously it's important to listen to your gut and if he's making you feel uncomfortable in any way you need to take measures to keep yourself and your family safe.
Regarding the detail you mentioned about him drinking-- if he gets home from his job pretty early, I wonder if he's already had several even before he comes outside and bothers you when you're getting home. Is he asking after your DH because he's looking for a drinking buddy? I'm not trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because it's pretty clear he's a creeper, but there have been times when a male neighbor (married or living with someone) has called across the street or something to me to ask if my husband is home because sometimes they have beers together and play guitar or whatever. Not the same level as this dude, though. I think where I'm trying to go with this is that maybe he's more impaired than you know and therefore isn't even aware that he's being a total creep.
What do you think of the girlfriend? You said she mentioned that he can be mean sometimes, so you must have had some interaction with her. Does she seem as creepy?
Do you think it would be helpful if your husband wouldn't try to avoid him, and have a conversation with the guy, as much as it pains him? Sort of more proactive, than reactive?
I think you're right to feel creeped out by him. Obviously it's important to listen to your gut and if he's making you feel uncomfortable in any way you need to take measures to keep yourself and your family safe.
Regarding the detail you mentioned about him drinking-- if he gets home from his job pretty early, I wonder if he's already had several even before he comes outside and bothers you when you're getting home. Is he asking after your DH because he's looking for a drinking buddy? I'm not trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because it's pretty clear he's a creeper, but there have been times when a male neighbor (married or living with someone) has called across the street or something to me to ask if my husband is home because sometimes they have beers together and play guitar or whatever. Not the same level as this dude, though. I think where I'm trying to go with this is that maybe he's more impaired than you know and therefore isn't even aware that he's being a total creep.
What do you think of the girlfriend? You said she mentioned that he can be mean sometimes, so you must have had some interaction with her. Does she seem as creepy?
Do you think it would be helpful if your husband wouldn't try to avoid him, and have a conversation with the guy, as much as it pains him? Sort of more proactive, than reactive?