southhorizon
Rough_Rock
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- Jul 7, 2009
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having told their SO that they have to choose the ring themselves and decide when to propose?
I did this a few months ago after SO initiated discussions about getting married because I like the idea of him proposing with a ring he has chosen and, for financial reasons, I want him to decide how much he wants to spend. He told me a little while ago roughly what he is thinking (diamond size, quality etc - he has obviously done a fair amount of homework) and since then, nothing....
So despite being the one pushing things initially, he is now not saying much about it at all or hinting that it will be some time yet. I don''t know whether this is because he is waiting for the right opportunity (he has told me he wants it to be when I least expect it) or because he is now wanting to slow things down. We have been together about a year and are living together. We are both 36 and would like to have a family (which we have discussed) so we don''t have forever to decide.
I don''t mind if it is still a little while off but it would be nice to have some idea so I can stop thinking about it in the meantime. My subtle attempts to extract some information have been unsuccessful. He has told me that since I didn''t want to be involved in choosing the ring and wanted the proposal to be a surprise, I now have to trust him (which is absolutely fair but very frustrating!)
Any hints on how to ask him about a timeframe without ruining the surprise if he is planning to do it soon?
I did this a few months ago after SO initiated discussions about getting married because I like the idea of him proposing with a ring he has chosen and, for financial reasons, I want him to decide how much he wants to spend. He told me a little while ago roughly what he is thinking (diamond size, quality etc - he has obviously done a fair amount of homework) and since then, nothing....
So despite being the one pushing things initially, he is now not saying much about it at all or hinting that it will be some time yet. I don''t know whether this is because he is waiting for the right opportunity (he has told me he wants it to be when I least expect it) or because he is now wanting to slow things down. We have been together about a year and are living together. We are both 36 and would like to have a family (which we have discussed) so we don''t have forever to decide.
I don''t mind if it is still a little while off but it would be nice to have some idea so I can stop thinking about it in the meantime. My subtle attempts to extract some information have been unsuccessful. He has told me that since I didn''t want to be involved in choosing the ring and wanted the proposal to be a surprise, I now have to trust him (which is absolutely fair but very frustrating!)
Any hints on how to ask him about a timeframe without ruining the surprise if he is planning to do it soon?