allycat0303
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Hi everyone,
I haven't been on this board so much either for lurking, but I need some advice from the ladies here.
My sister (who many of you know) and I have had a rocky relationship in the past. After loads of family drama, we've settled back into our pre-craziness state. We are quite close now. My sister was briefly married, to a truly detestable man, before being divorce. She has been single for about 2 years.
Since then, she has been looking for a relationship. My sister is (and always has been) desperate for children. She has everything going for her: she's beautiful, she's successful, has a load of friends. And in the past 2 years has dated 7 guys who she thought were *serious* but as an outsider, we could see was nonsense. For 6 month now, she's dating a new guy P. Now P is 38 years old, an orthopedic surgeon. I've never met P, but I talk to my sister everyday, and feel like I'm living this relationship. P and her have broken up 6 times in 6 months. Reasons vary but include, him not being ready, her not giving enough, they can't be bothered etc. Although, P unlike her other boyfriends keeps coming back. They break up for about 3 days. And everytime they break up, my sister starts a *self journey to discover why she can't be in a relationship* which is quickly forgotten when P calls back and they get back together.
Bottom line: this relationship stinks. I've never met him, because on weekends (every weekend) "he's on call so he can't attend family functions...or see her." Which stinks to high heaven. As a surgeon in Montreal, being on call means, that if there's an emergency, he comes in and operates. He has residents that round and see patients for him, and a senior resident that is in hospital. I've never seen my staff in the hospital on the weekend. They call in and ask how their patients are doing. I suspect she might not be his only (or primary girlfriend).
I'm trying to be supportive, and saying things like, "Well, you'll see how it goes with P.", when I really want to tell her he's probably playing around, and quite obviously is not intrested in a relationship. 3 of their breakups was because he didn't really know what he wanted!! The guy is 38. If he doesn't know now, he might never know. And this is after a few months of being together!
So do I just tell her what I think? And can anyone tell me why she keeps dating these guys with no potential for the future? On one hand she cries because she's almost 30 and feels she may never have children! I just don't understand what's going on with her.
I haven't been on this board so much either for lurking, but I need some advice from the ladies here.
My sister (who many of you know) and I have had a rocky relationship in the past. After loads of family drama, we've settled back into our pre-craziness state. We are quite close now. My sister was briefly married, to a truly detestable man, before being divorce. She has been single for about 2 years.
Since then, she has been looking for a relationship. My sister is (and always has been) desperate for children. She has everything going for her: she's beautiful, she's successful, has a load of friends. And in the past 2 years has dated 7 guys who she thought were *serious* but as an outsider, we could see was nonsense. For 6 month now, she's dating a new guy P. Now P is 38 years old, an orthopedic surgeon. I've never met P, but I talk to my sister everyday, and feel like I'm living this relationship. P and her have broken up 6 times in 6 months. Reasons vary but include, him not being ready, her not giving enough, they can't be bothered etc. Although, P unlike her other boyfriends keeps coming back. They break up for about 3 days. And everytime they break up, my sister starts a *self journey to discover why she can't be in a relationship* which is quickly forgotten when P calls back and they get back together.
Bottom line: this relationship stinks. I've never met him, because on weekends (every weekend) "he's on call so he can't attend family functions...or see her." Which stinks to high heaven. As a surgeon in Montreal, being on call means, that if there's an emergency, he comes in and operates. He has residents that round and see patients for him, and a senior resident that is in hospital. I've never seen my staff in the hospital on the weekend. They call in and ask how their patients are doing. I suspect she might not be his only (or primary girlfriend).
I'm trying to be supportive, and saying things like, "Well, you'll see how it goes with P.", when I really want to tell her he's probably playing around, and quite obviously is not intrested in a relationship. 3 of their breakups was because he didn't really know what he wanted!! The guy is 38. If he doesn't know now, he might never know. And this is after a few months of being together!
So do I just tell her what I think? And can anyone tell me why she keeps dating these guys with no potential for the future? On one hand she cries because she's almost 30 and feels she may never have children! I just don't understand what's going on with her.