robbie3982
Ideal_Rock
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DH had his yearly review today at work. They''re giving him an 8% raise, definitely nothing to sneeze at, but nowhere near what we''d been hoping for or what he deserves. Even with this raise, he''s making $10k less than what salary.com has for the low end of his field (software engineer) at his experience level (3 years putting him at level 2). He''s not even making the mid-range for entry level experience.
He went into the review with a good plan and things were looking really good. His reasoning was sound about why he deserved the raise he was asking for (he''s one of the more senior employees at the company now, they''re paying below what he should be making for the area, he''s worked on both sides of development while most people have only done one or the other) and the company''s obviously been doing well since they''re creating new positions and bringing in new people all over the place.
My understanding (he just texted me since he didn''t want to email about it from work or call since people would hear) is that they gave him a run-around answer about whether or not he''d ever be making the kind of money that he should be in this industry in the area we live--kind of like, well you''ll just have to wait and see how it goes.
I think that''s ridiculous! He''s been there 3 years and the company''s doing well! I feel like if it hasn''t happened now, it''s never going to happen.
We''ve been looking at houses, but now I feel like we should stop and start looking for jobs in Pittsburgh (where we''re originally from). Maybe he could find a job where we''re at now that pays what he should be making, but I feel like if he''s going to change, we should just make the move back home that we wanted to make at some point anyway.
DH and I discussed possible outcomes of this review before it happend and decided that if they didn''t give him a raise for at least $X, then we''d be moving. The raise wasn''t even half of that.
Here''s the problem: he loves where he works (besides the subpar pay)! He''s never stressed out by work and he loves his coworkers (a group of them hang out a lot and his direct supervisor was even in our wedding). DH also hates change. Even though we''d be moving back to our families (his is big) he''d have to deal with starting a new job.
So, I''m torn about whether to push the move (which we both agreed to but I know he''s terrified of) or to stay where we are because it would be easier on him.
DH''s sister was telling me on Halloween that I need to push him to make the move back home and move on in his career or he never will. I can definitely see that happening. I know DH is unsure of himself and his worth as a worker (this is his first job out of college), but I know that he''s a great worker and can do better than this job. I just feel like there''s a very thin line between pushing him into something I know he can do and pushing him into something he doesn''t want to do. I mean what if I push the move and he HATES his new job and resents me for making him leave the old one? I really want DH to be happy and I definitely don’t want to be the cause of any unhappiness!
My career, by the way, is pretty much irrelevant at this point (in case anyone was wondering). I dislike my current job, but I''ve disliked every job I''ve had so far, so I''d rather dislike a job near our families.
The reasoning for wanting to move back home is that it would be great to be around family when it’s time to have kids (another year or so) and plus we wouldn’t have to miss out on events like we do now with his family (or make a 3hr round trip almost every weekend).
So, if you’ve actually made it through this novel-length post, what would you do???