Second part to the crazy saga...... thanks to all of the GREAT advice that I received on the board, I had the idea to make a list of five questions for my boyfriend that I needed more than vague answers to for me to continue in the relationship. I left the questions on his computer so they would be there when he got home from work (I go to class at night, so he had three hours to be alone and answer them). I asked him to write the answers down, because sometimes people put more thought into their answers that way. I told him that I would answer the questions to, and that later when I got home we would compare our answers and find out if we truly were on the same page. I asked questions like "What have you told friends about our relationship when asked how serious you are about me?" and "What exactly do you need from this realtionship or personally to feel like you want to get engaged?"
Well, he answered all of the questions, his answers matched mine, and he apologized for flipping out last week. I was just over emotional because I have been dicked aroound by guys before, and never thougth he would do the same (good thing he wasn''t). Turns out, he sees engaement as the same as being married, while I see engagement as only being a small step there. I would like to get engaged sooner and then wait to get married, while he would rather wait to get engaged and then get married right away. So we agreed to compromise, he will have to propose sooner than he would like and I am going to have to wait longer than I would like.
Thanks guys, I credit you all for keeping me sane and giving me those hard questions to ask. I still have a relationship becasue of it.
Well, he answered all of the questions, his answers matched mine, and he apologized for flipping out last week. I was just over emotional because I have been dicked aroound by guys before, and never thougth he would do the same (good thing he wasn''t). Turns out, he sees engaement as the same as being married, while I see engagement as only being a small step there. I would like to get engaged sooner and then wait to get married, while he would rather wait to get engaged and then get married right away. So we agreed to compromise, he will have to propose sooner than he would like and I am going to have to wait longer than I would like.
Thanks guys, I credit you all for keeping me sane and giving me those hard questions to ask. I still have a relationship becasue of it.