Tressel
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Jun 21, 2007
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Hi everyone. I''ve been reading the boards for a while and your reviews, guidance and pictures have helped me select a beautiful ring from GOG.
For the proposal, I have spectacular plans that include a helicopter ride, limo and a trip through California''s wine country. However, a wrench was just thrown in and the plans may be shot. We are from Ohio and will be heading to CA for my cousins wedding. We arrive on Thursday, wedding Friday and leave Sunday. My idea was to propose on the first day of our trip so that we could celebrate the entire time and have a vacation for ourselves. Out of respect, i asked the bride and groom if they were OK with me proposing on that first night because i do not want to take the spotlight off of her on her special day. Their response came back as a very respectful, they would rather i didn''t.
I see my options as proposing on Saturday in CA, proposing before or after the trip, or propose on Thursday as planned and ask her not to reveal that anything happened until after the wedding and reception.
Asking her to keep the engagement secret seems like the worst decision on the surface, however I am concerned that the plans i could make for Thursday are so magnificently better than anything i could do on the other days, i would like to keep the plans. The other days have issues too. If i propose before we arrive, then that first Thursday is still going to grab attention from other people (family) who are there on Thursday or at the wedding. If i propose on Saturday, i can not do the same plans and we have less time to ourselves to celebrate. Doing it after our trip means we are back in Ohio and she doesn’t have many vacation days left in the year.
I would appreciate comments from everyone on what they think would be the best course of action. Can I ask her to keep it a secret for two days? Should I? Is proposing ahead of time just as bad as doing it the first day we are there?
Thanks for your advice.