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Brilliant_Rock
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To give you a bit of a reference, here, the co-worker in question is a fly-off-the-handle, very defensive person who doesn''t really get the whole "professional demeanor" concept. She doesn''t take criticism well (even from her bosses), so people - including me - tend to walk on eggshells around her so as not to stir the pot.
Anyway, this co-worker uses the word "retarded" in a derogatory way on a regular basis. My brother is physically and mentally challenged so I take exception to the word usage. We''re in a cubicle farm, so who knows who else within earshot knows or is related to someone with mental or physical challenges. Either way... I just plain don''t like when she says it.
I realize that my co-worker does not intend to offend me when using the word (just as I realize others who use the word do not seek to offend me or others). Still, I would like to ask her to not say the word in a derogatory context, at least around me, but her defensiveness (i.e.: wrath) frightens me. Yes, I know... I''m a wuss.
I''ve told DH about this and he doesn''t really get why I get upset when people use the word that way. I''ve tried to explain to him that using the word "retarded" in a derogatory way is exactly the same thing as using the word "gay" in a derogatory way (he and I both do not agree with such word usage). He just doesn''t get the parallel though. (NOTE: DH does not use the word "retarded" in a derogatory sense because he knows it offends me and others... he just doesn''t exactly understand why it can upset people as much as it does.) DH is a smart, sensitive, wonderful man but I don''t get where he can''t make the connection. Anyway, DH thinks I''m just being overly sensitive. What do you think? What do you suggest? What would you do?