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DH and I usually host the whole extended family Christmas Day but we've had a difficult year for various health reasons and just weren't up to hosting this Christmas. Since no one else volunteered to host, we'll be having a quiet Christmas with our 2 DD's and their SO's. Our older daughter and SO confirmed they'd spend Christmas Day with us and as recently as a week ago I was talking to her about the plans for the day. Well tonight she tells us that they'll come by in the morning to exchange gifts but have to head out early to be at SO's family 3 hours away for dinner. DH and I were upset and very confused. When challenged about her promise to spend the day with us she said that in her mind spending the day didn't include dinner??? I told her it felt like she was bailing on us and it was hurtful. She said that accusing her of bailing hurt her feelings and we left it at that for now. If she wanted to spend Christmas at her SO's family why didn't she tell us before? So now my younger adopted daughter is saying that if her sister isn't there then she want's to go to her birth mother's instead since there'll be a lot more people....more fun. I'm really upset right now and have a couple of questions. What does spending Christmas Day with someone mean to you? Does it include supper? And next question is how do we move on and get past this? DD will be out of town until early Jan so we can't reschedule. We've always been very close and this is out of character