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Brilliant_Rock
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- May 31, 2009
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I am considering buying my bridesmaid''s dresses as their bridesmaid gift. Is this ridiculous? I just can''t wrap my head around the idea of forcing somebody to buy a dress they never would have bought in the first place.
On the up side, they wouldn''t have to pay for a dress they''d never wear again, yay!
On the down side, their gift would be a dress they''d never wear again, yay.
Also, I have three bridesmaids not including the maid of honor. Two of them, I was a bridesmaid for their weddings and I had to pay for my own dress. I am worried that they will think I am showing them up, or being passive-aggressive about having to buy my dresses for their weddings. I definitely don''t want to cause any problems, because that is so not my intention at all. I just want to do something nice for them.
Should I just do what everybody else does and have them pay for the dress and get them a nice bridesmaid gift? If I go that route, my plan was to show them the colors and say find a knee-length dress that you love and are comfortable in that matches either of these. Is that inappropriate or too much work for them?
My bottom line is that I want to make it as easy on these girls as possible, two of them are coming a fair bit of distance to be in the wedding and the other just bought a house and I don''t want to stress her financially. I am also going to be paying for their accommodations, if that helps at all.
On the up side, they wouldn''t have to pay for a dress they''d never wear again, yay!
On the down side, their gift would be a dress they''d never wear again, yay.
Also, I have three bridesmaids not including the maid of honor. Two of them, I was a bridesmaid for their weddings and I had to pay for my own dress. I am worried that they will think I am showing them up, or being passive-aggressive about having to buy my dresses for their weddings. I definitely don''t want to cause any problems, because that is so not my intention at all. I just want to do something nice for them.
Should I just do what everybody else does and have them pay for the dress and get them a nice bridesmaid gift? If I go that route, my plan was to show them the colors and say find a knee-length dress that you love and are comfortable in that matches either of these. Is that inappropriate or too much work for them?
My bottom line is that I want to make it as easy on these girls as possible, two of them are coming a fair bit of distance to be in the wedding and the other just bought a house and I don''t want to stress her financially. I am also going to be paying for their accommodations, if that helps at all.