I have a question for you ladies.
Out of my 5 BMs only one is single. I told her if she wants to bring a date she can if she is seeing someone etc. She sent back her rsvp with a guest and had 2 meals checked off.
I called her to ask her who she was bringing and she said...(we''ll call him) Matt. I said oh where did you meet him? She said no Matt Smith. I was confused because he is engaged to an acquaintance of ours. She said well I dont want to go solo and hes one of my best friends...I''ve known him for years as well, but he is not one of my favorite people..but keep that to myself to not stir up trouble.
Now, I''m not sure if this comes across weird, my mother thinks its strange that she is bringing someone else''s fiance...regardless the *twist* is one of my very good friends who will be at the wedding, dated him for years. They do not get along whatsoever. She is engaged as well, so I dont think there are any hard feelings left, but I''m just worried this is going to make one of my guests feel uncomfortable because a BM doesn''t want to go solo. Not only that she has TONS of guy friends that she could have brought...mind you this is one of the BMs I''m having major problems with...in the back of my head im thinking she is doing this to make my life difficult.
If I had any idea she would be bringing him as her date I wouldn''t have extended her an invite with a guest, but because I did I dont feel it would be appropriate to tell her she cant bring him or who she can bring.
My question is do I:
A) tell my friend her ex is going and see if she is going to have a problem with it and if she does then say something
B) tell my BM i dont think her date choice is a good idea bc of potential drama
C) give my friend a heads up that he will be there so she''s not surprised
D) do nothing and sit them on opposite sides?
E) anything you suggest, im getting mixed responses from my mom and FSILs.
I personally wouldn''t ever respond +1 to a wedding unless I was traveling a far distance or wasn''t going to know a soul other than the bride and groom. I just wouldnt want someone to pay for a very expensive plate unless it was a real "date".
Out of my 5 BMs only one is single. I told her if she wants to bring a date she can if she is seeing someone etc. She sent back her rsvp with a guest and had 2 meals checked off.
I called her to ask her who she was bringing and she said...(we''ll call him) Matt. I said oh where did you meet him? She said no Matt Smith. I was confused because he is engaged to an acquaintance of ours. She said well I dont want to go solo and hes one of my best friends...I''ve known him for years as well, but he is not one of my favorite people..but keep that to myself to not stir up trouble.
Now, I''m not sure if this comes across weird, my mother thinks its strange that she is bringing someone else''s fiance...regardless the *twist* is one of my very good friends who will be at the wedding, dated him for years. They do not get along whatsoever. She is engaged as well, so I dont think there are any hard feelings left, but I''m just worried this is going to make one of my guests feel uncomfortable because a BM doesn''t want to go solo. Not only that she has TONS of guy friends that she could have brought...mind you this is one of the BMs I''m having major problems with...in the back of my head im thinking she is doing this to make my life difficult.
If I had any idea she would be bringing him as her date I wouldn''t have extended her an invite with a guest, but because I did I dont feel it would be appropriate to tell her she cant bring him or who she can bring.
My question is do I:
A) tell my friend her ex is going and see if she is going to have a problem with it and if she does then say something
B) tell my BM i dont think her date choice is a good idea bc of potential drama
C) give my friend a heads up that he will be there so she''s not surprised
D) do nothing and sit them on opposite sides?
E) anything you suggest, im getting mixed responses from my mom and FSILs.
I personally wouldn''t ever respond +1 to a wedding unless I was traveling a far distance or wasn''t going to know a soul other than the bride and groom. I just wouldnt want someone to pay for a very expensive plate unless it was a real "date".