DivaDiamond007
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I need some PS'er advice. A friend of mine, "T", is getting married in October. At the time of their marriage, they will have known each other for only 6 months. I have been friends with T since junior high. She was very sheltered as a child and teen and has never dated anyone other than this particular guy. She is unemployed and he works part time at Walmart. They live with T's father, who is controlling, manipulative and needy. T's mother died a bit more than a year ago.
I am not in favor of T getting married to this guy, however, DH and I RSVP'd "yes" to the ceremony because she is a good friend of mine. I am trying my best to mind my own business and not tell her that I think she is making a mistake a that she really should slow things down. It's not my life, so I feel like I have no room to say anything to her, lest I hurt her feelings and have her push me away, as she has done before.
My dilemma is that my MIL, who is invited to the wedding, wants to give her a bridal shower. I do not think that it is appropriate since they are not "setting up house", nor do they have any intention to. Also, since I do not totally support their union I feel it would be two-faced of me to be involved in giving her a shower when I don't even think they should be getting married in the first place. I explained my feelings to MIL and she still thinks that we should give her a shower since it's not likely that anyone else will.
What are your opinions?
I am not in favor of T getting married to this guy, however, DH and I RSVP'd "yes" to the ceremony because she is a good friend of mine. I am trying my best to mind my own business and not tell her that I think she is making a mistake a that she really should slow things down. It's not my life, so I feel like I have no room to say anything to her, lest I hurt her feelings and have her push me away, as she has done before.
My dilemma is that my MIL, who is invited to the wedding, wants to give her a bridal shower. I do not think that it is appropriate since they are not "setting up house", nor do they have any intention to. Also, since I do not totally support their union I feel it would be two-faced of me to be involved in giving her a shower when I don't even think they should be getting married in the first place. I explained my feelings to MIL and she still thinks that we should give her a shower since it's not likely that anyone else will.
What are your opinions?