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Ideal_Rock
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This q is particularly for you ladies with very valuable pieces, but please everyone chime in!
I have an elderly cousin (87? I think? or 88?) whom I really love. We only met about 7 years ago, after I'd moved to the USA. She lives nearby and since I'm her only relative in this corner of the world (and she's MY only relative) we've got pretty close and get together every three weeks or so. It doesn't hurt that we share a lot of interests (exotic travel, diamonds, yummy restaurants, handsome men
, fashion) so we can talk for hours and hours and hours.
Anyway, I think we're pretty attached to each other at this point, but she's not the effusive type, so while I tend to say "lots of love, cousin E!" and tell her I missed her and stuff, she doesn't really do the same. But she shows her affection in lots of other ways: calling me for obviously trumped up reasons... buying me gifts when she's abroad... etc.
OK, so here's the question: Cousin E (who's my grammy's first cousin) is very, very wealthy. She has spectacular vintage jewels, and has told me that there's lots more she never pulls out because she never has a chance to wear them. She obviously feels sad about that.
My line of the family is NOT the one with money, and we have no fancy family jewels...except my mom's e-ring.
So, what I'm wondering is, would it be appropriate for me to ask Cousin E if she could be the source of my "something borrowed" for my wedding and loan me something spectacular to wear?
If someone asked to borrow something VERY valuable from YOU to wear (and take abroad for that matter) would you be OK with that?
I don't want to create any discomfort with her. But I also wondered if she might feel honoured. She has no immediate family of her own and it's also a way to make her feel included. I brough her dress shopping with me and she was SO excited, e.g.. BUT...?
I have an elderly cousin (87? I think? or 88?) whom I really love. We only met about 7 years ago, after I'd moved to the USA. She lives nearby and since I'm her only relative in this corner of the world (and she's MY only relative) we've got pretty close and get together every three weeks or so. It doesn't hurt that we share a lot of interests (exotic travel, diamonds, yummy restaurants, handsome men
Anyway, I think we're pretty attached to each other at this point, but she's not the effusive type, so while I tend to say "lots of love, cousin E!" and tell her I missed her and stuff, she doesn't really do the same. But she shows her affection in lots of other ways: calling me for obviously trumped up reasons... buying me gifts when she's abroad... etc.
OK, so here's the question: Cousin E (who's my grammy's first cousin) is very, very wealthy. She has spectacular vintage jewels, and has told me that there's lots more she never pulls out because she never has a chance to wear them. She obviously feels sad about that.
My line of the family is NOT the one with money, and we have no fancy family jewels...except my mom's e-ring.
So, what I'm wondering is, would it be appropriate for me to ask Cousin E if she could be the source of my "something borrowed" for my wedding and loan me something spectacular to wear?
If someone asked to borrow something VERY valuable from YOU to wear (and take abroad for that matter) would you be OK with that?
I don't want to create any discomfort with her. But I also wondered if she might feel honoured. She has no immediate family of her own and it's also a way to make her feel included. I brough her dress shopping with me and she was SO excited, e.g.. BUT...?