aliciagirl
Shiny_Rock
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- Nov 9, 2007
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...at what point is it past being a typical overly-critical woman and actually needing help?
I''ve noticed that I''m very critical of myself lately. There are definitely days I just want to not go anywhere or where seeing myself not clothed in a mirror literally makes me tear up. I gained maybe 5 pounds, but the way I see myself has changed very dramatically.
I can''t really figure out what really caused it. I know that I dated a lot of guys in life who valued smarts and personality over looks. I never dated anyone who had celebrity crushes or objectified women in any way. FF is definitely different from those guys, but he''s just a typical guy in that way. I mean, I can''t realistically expect any guy I date to not find models/celebrities attractive, it was honestly just something I had never encountered (as odd as that is.) I think some of my insecurities stem from that, deep down, and I know that my SO loves me and doesn''t want me to be different and thinks I''m the greatest girl in the world but it''s just a feeling I can''t shake.
I feel really terrible about it because insecurity is not attractive in another person. At all. It''s not something I ever imagined I would be. I try to reassure myself that every woman I know is insecure about some part of their bodies/person, but I was just wondering if anyone had any insight? Can anyone relate to feeling really self-conscious?
I''ve noticed that I''m very critical of myself lately. There are definitely days I just want to not go anywhere or where seeing myself not clothed in a mirror literally makes me tear up. I gained maybe 5 pounds, but the way I see myself has changed very dramatically.
I can''t really figure out what really caused it. I know that I dated a lot of guys in life who valued smarts and personality over looks. I never dated anyone who had celebrity crushes or objectified women in any way. FF is definitely different from those guys, but he''s just a typical guy in that way. I mean, I can''t realistically expect any guy I date to not find models/celebrities attractive, it was honestly just something I had never encountered (as odd as that is.) I think some of my insecurities stem from that, deep down, and I know that my SO loves me and doesn''t want me to be different and thinks I''m the greatest girl in the world but it''s just a feeling I can''t shake.
I feel really terrible about it because insecurity is not attractive in another person. At all. It''s not something I ever imagined I would be. I try to reassure myself that every woman I know is insecure about some part of their bodies/person, but I was just wondering if anyone had any insight? Can anyone relate to feeling really self-conscious?