jcarlylew
Ideal_Rock
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so, i usually refrain from posting serious problems about relationships here, becuase lets face it, Most the time you''re going to get the answer you don''t want, someone might offend you, or even worse, someone might tell you to leave the man that you''ve falling in love with.
But, my time has come, and i need some help. So, I''ll take words of wisdom, kindly please!
We are not the worlds best financial planners. in fact, we usually spend outside our means and struggle at the end of the month. this is something that we''re both working on. Fortunately we are young (enough), and only have a puppy to rely on us and have time to fix it now! However, lately, i feel that E''s spending is out of control, and the biggest step of us not getting engaged is the fact that though he makes more than enough money, he cannot save a dime. so the irrational (or is is rational?) side of me says that this is a huge warning sign that he doesn''t want to get married. of course that then is usually followed by a side comment from a close friend who says that he''s looking forward to it.
color me confused.
So, really its a two part question -
1 - how do i help him control his spending, and start focusing on saving for important things, rather than just blow money when he has it?
2 - is this really a sign of something deeper, or is it maybe just my own fears (cold feet) acting out?
But, my time has come, and i need some help. So, I''ll take words of wisdom, kindly please!
We are not the worlds best financial planners. in fact, we usually spend outside our means and struggle at the end of the month. this is something that we''re both working on. Fortunately we are young (enough), and only have a puppy to rely on us and have time to fix it now! However, lately, i feel that E''s spending is out of control, and the biggest step of us not getting engaged is the fact that though he makes more than enough money, he cannot save a dime. so the irrational (or is is rational?) side of me says that this is a huge warning sign that he doesn''t want to get married. of course that then is usually followed by a side comment from a close friend who says that he''s looking forward to it.
color me confused.
So, really its a two part question -
1 - how do i help him control his spending, and start focusing on saving for important things, rather than just blow money when he has it?
2 - is this really a sign of something deeper, or is it maybe just my own fears (cold feet) acting out?