Independent Gal
Ideal_Rock
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When I was in grad school, I became good friends with a guy in the university administration. He''s really fun and awesome and we had so many good times together while I was in grad school, and then visiting each other afterward. I get along great with his girlfriend and he seems to like FI a lot too. Anyway, about 4 months ago, he suddenly went AWOL. Stopped returning calls, e-mails, text messages... The only thing he responded to was when I told him we were engaged and asked him to save the date. Then he sent really nice warm greetings and congratulations, and other than that... nothing. I''ve sent a couple of ''Are you still alive out there?'' texts. Nothing.
The only thing I can think of is that he might be really depressed, which he''s told me he''s prone to. I know that he really wants to get married and settle down, and is totally smitten with his g/f, but last time we saw each other, he was talking about how he wasn''t sure he really trusted her and how she had recently told him she doesn''t want kids. He seemed very hopeful she''d change her mind one minute, and then moody and devastated the next.
So, maybe they broke up and he''s miserable? Or something?
I just don''t know. But I''m seriously worried about him. We''ve been friends for 6 years now and he''s never acted like this before.
And there is absolutely no reason I could think of that he would be angry with me or anything.
So, my question is: what do you suggest I do? Should I be more aggresive about finding out what''s wrong? Let him take his time in getting back in touch?
I wish we had mutual friends that I could ask, but the only chums we have in common are work colleagues of his, and I don''t want to embarass him.
Help?
The only thing I can think of is that he might be really depressed, which he''s told me he''s prone to. I know that he really wants to get married and settle down, and is totally smitten with his g/f, but last time we saw each other, he was talking about how he wasn''t sure he really trusted her and how she had recently told him she doesn''t want kids. He seemed very hopeful she''d change her mind one minute, and then moody and devastated the next.
So, maybe they broke up and he''s miserable? Or something?
I just don''t know. But I''m seriously worried about him. We''ve been friends for 6 years now and he''s never acted like this before.
And there is absolutely no reason I could think of that he would be angry with me or anything.
So, my question is: what do you suggest I do? Should I be more aggresive about finding out what''s wrong? Let him take his time in getting back in touch?
I wish we had mutual friends that I could ask, but the only chums we have in common are work colleagues of his, and I don''t want to embarass him.
Help?