Sabine
Ideal_Rock
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I was just re-reading some posts in the age-gap thread, and it had me thinking. We're planning on an age gap of 3-4 years between ds and any future kids. I know it's going to be what's best for us with our situation, but I do feel bad that he won't have a playmate closer in age. It had me thinking about my family growing up, and how it was nice not only having my older brother close in age, but also 2 cousins that we saw ALL.THE.TIME who were nearly the same age as us in well. At family functions it was never an issue for us kids to go off and entertain ourselves, and we all got along really well when we were all together, even if my bro. and I weren't currently getting along at home.
We didn't have a really big family, and I only have 2 other cousins total, both who are a LOT younger than me (I think I was in hs when the first was born). But we at least had 2 cousins our age to play with.
Poor Jackson doesn't have any cousins, and probably won't for a LONG time if he ever does. My brother is married, but he works on Wall Street and is very stressed by his job, and his wife is in no hurry for kids. Dh has an older brother who has only ever dated a handful of women, and he honestly told us a month or so ago that if it doesn't happen for him in the next few years (wife, kids, settling down, etc.) he might be happy as a perpetual bachelor. He's only 29 so I don't know if that will happen or not, but I can't imagine him having kids in the next few years anyway. Dh's sister is 3.5 years younger, and she's just getting started professionally and has never had a serious boyfriend. She's still very much in party mode, so although she might settle down at some point, it probably won't be for a few years.
Anyone else have a lone LO with no siblings and no prospects for cousins any time soon? Does it make you feel bad when you think of future family gatherings?
We didn't have a really big family, and I only have 2 other cousins total, both who are a LOT younger than me (I think I was in hs when the first was born). But we at least had 2 cousins our age to play with.
Poor Jackson doesn't have any cousins, and probably won't for a LONG time if he ever does. My brother is married, but he works on Wall Street and is very stressed by his job, and his wife is in no hurry for kids. Dh has an older brother who has only ever dated a handful of women, and he honestly told us a month or so ago that if it doesn't happen for him in the next few years (wife, kids, settling down, etc.) he might be happy as a perpetual bachelor. He's only 29 so I don't know if that will happen or not, but I can't imagine him having kids in the next few years anyway. Dh's sister is 3.5 years younger, and she's just getting started professionally and has never had a serious boyfriend. She's still very much in party mode, so although she might settle down at some point, it probably won't be for a few years.
Anyone else have a lone LO with no siblings and no prospects for cousins any time soon? Does it make you feel bad when you think of future family gatherings?