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Scandinavian|1480581315|4103992 said:ihy138|1480568656|4103972 said:I think I'm going to heal leaps and bounds once I leave. I appreciate you saying this is not a failure. It feels a lot like one. I always thought a successful relationship was one that lasted forever, but I think it's that attitude that led to some complacency on my part and contributed to the demise of my marriage. The thought of dating again freaks me out a little, but that's really excellent advice on how to handle it. Thank you for your kindness.
Please move out of that apartment.. soon! As in this weekend? Perhaps you can stay on the couch with a friend (perhaps a male one to drive your DH a little crazy, he has deserved that, lol) or live under a bridge or something? The bridge part might be a joke, but it might still be better for you.. I feel like perhaps your DH is not exactly doing good things for your self-confidence or positive thinking these days.. Just move? And come back for the stuff that is yours when you are able to and there is room for it at your parents? I don't mean to put pressure on you, just think you deserve better than this. Hugs!
I would check on getting a restraining order (pertaining to property, not to him or her) first so he can't break or vandalize her things if she leaves them in the apartment, nor stop her (encumber) her from getting them later. Has anyone filed/been served divorce petition yet? Ask for a temporary provisional hearing so these matters can be clarified and he can't cause any further harm. I left a ton of things behind when I left my first marriage and even though he told me I could come and get them any time, by the time I was ready, he claimed he had moved and everything of mine was ruined in a flood in his new buiding's basement. I had no recourse.